14 yr old Step Daughter!!
Ok i have read some of the other posts so here goes.
I am getting married to my partner of a 1 yr in 7 weeks time. Our life was amazing together and we had the perfect bubble. I have a 14 yr old son who is no problem at all apart from he is lazy and plays the Xbox alot!! Hey i can cope with that!
4 Weeks ago the CSA got in contact with my partner for his 14 yr old daughter. I advised to set up private arrangement with the mother which he did. All of a sudden bearing in mind the mother stopped him seeing his daughter 3 yrs ago daughter wants to see her nan? Then it progressed to grandad and then she wants to see her dad - after nan told her that he was getting married! Well he saw her and is now over the moon although they have only had supervised access with the mother! Daughter doesnt stop texting her dad now like he is her best friend, she has informed hi that she goes to concerts with her friend and older sister, also told him that she drinks alco pops. She did send him a text with the phrase ffs, to which he asked her what this means and she informed him that this is swearing and she didnt mean to put in a text! Well im sorry but this girl is not doing herself any favours with me, she has told her dad that she doesnt like school and that she is a rebel. He is going out of his way too much to be nice as he is frightened that he will scare her away. She tells him that she has no credit on her phone as he used to top her phone up 3 yrs ago - i have told him he is not to do this as he gives her mum alot of money. He has asked to see her on his own now - bearing in mind the texting has been going on every 5 seconds for the last 3 weeks - she wants to bring her friend? Come on how is that quality time? So i have said that i will go now as i will not let him put hiself in that position with 2 young girls - oh yer there is currently a situation with the police and a waiter going on with her!!
We said we would take them out for dinner tonight and but she cant do that now so she has taken control again. I just dont like this at all - I think there are games being played - if i was in her position i wouldnt want my dad knowing them things about me and i would bite his hand off to spend time on our own together. Apparently the mother told my partner that she wasnt that interested in her dad until she found out he ws getting married!!!!
Come on please help me - All i do is think about this and fight with my partner now its destroying me and us - i know she is no threat to me and he is a big boy who has to learn but thats not helping me.
Miss Confused!!!
Well it took the course of
Well it took the course of him walking out this morning. I have blogged it.
I really dont know how to handle the gut feelings i have about her. Why do I get these?
You know I have done alot of thinking and maybe its because I never had this as a child either - I had aa dad that lived with us but he wasnt the kind caring sort that you would go to if you had a problem so maybe im jealous hat he is being this to her and also invading our lives?
I explained it was like someone knocking on the door every 5 mins when they havent bee invited round. Ii have no wstarted with the bitchy comments which havent helped me.
Its just all such a mess and i dont know how to sort it out. I want my relationship back that I had 2 months ago.
She knows how to wrap him round her little finger. We said we couldnt make Sunday due to other commitments with the vicar, so he got a call from a very stroppy little girl. 'Youve let me down again, you can be bothered with me, youve pissed me right off now!!!'
Thats not right she let him down last week as staying at a friends house - which she didnt end up staying there but didnt call him until 3pm!! So we changed it to Saturday night and all had to run around so that we could take her out.
What is going on.......