So, I snooped. SS had his iPod taken away by mom for a week. I saw it and started snooping.

SS invites friends over when we aren't home, I find out and break up the plans. SS texts to his friend that "LSNG is being a dick as usual and fucking up my plans"

Any advice? I was snooping. Is that wrong? How do I address this with my wife (his mom)? How do I address it with him?

The thing that kills me: he tells his friend to come over because he has madden for xbox.....I bought that for him. Sux.

SS is 12. Been married to his mom for 4 years. Blended family stuff was extremely hard in the beginning but is much better these days. 2 step kids, plus my daughter plus our son that my wife and I had together.