That sounds like typical 4-year-old behavior to me, especially if she is shy. My SD was like that at that age, and even until she was 10. At 6, SD was making up stories in her head and acting them out. I thought it was weird, but DH said it was normal. At 10, she did the same thing at soccer. While my DD was on the field playing the game, SD was laying on the bench, doodling in the dirt with a stick, and would chase butterflies when she was on the field. SD is fine now. Making a 4.0 all through high school (so far - she'll be a senior next year), has a job at McDonald's, and a group of friends she spends time with.

I don't think any 4 yr old actually "plays" baseball. Most of them that I have seen just run around and pick daisies if they are bored. My YSS was 5 when he played and I would watch him on the field just spinning around in circles.

My BS was also very socially awkward. He had a very difficult time initiating a friendship with kids his age and was standoffish because he was so shy. This lasted until he was around 11-12 and which time I sat him down and explained how his shyness came across and being rude. He finally understood. I also taught him how to look a person in the eye, shake their hand and greet an adult. Since then he has always done that. Every adult that comes in contact with him says he is the most polite young man they have ever met. He also started making friends around his freshman year and has a large social circle now.

Give the kid a break, take her for play dates with other kids and give her time to adjust before you label her as disabled.

Who's called her weird in the past? Or taught her that it's ok to insult others?

My grandson would flap his arms and run in circles making silly noises .... in the middle of Wal Mart. She is 4 not 14. So she doesn't want to play and make friends. And the problem is?

Let her be the little girl she is.

If she does have a disability early treatment can make such a huge difference in her life outcome. In my youth (because I am old as dirt) children with disabilities such as CP and Downs were often just institutionalized with little effort to maximize their potential.

Now I see children who have received extensive therapy mature into adults who can live decent lives. A friend's 30 year old child with Downs has a job and lives independently. He's a delight to be around.

I have concerns about the child my SS32 and his GF had. He is now 19 months old. He rarely smiles. He does not talk. He just sort of sits there more like a 6 month old child. I didn't think too much about it until I've recently been around other children even a few months younger who are so much more interactive with the world.

DH and his GF both smoked cigarettes and weed non-stop even during her pregnancy. I know SS drinks to excess. I don't know if GF drank during pregnancy. Probably at least in the first month or two as this was an "oops" baby not planned.

SS has a long history of family mental issues. I'm almost positive his maternal grandfather was bi-polar. He was a physician and director of the local hospital (big fish little pond) but had years of manic behavior followed by downs. BM had major depressive down years (before there were drugs to control this). SS was referred to inpatient hospitalization at five years old. So there's a genetic factor that may be in play. So sad.

My daughter is 4 and she's very shy. She needs someone to encourage her to talk to other kids and doesn't really know what to say to them. At the park, I'll tell her to go say hi to the other kids. She'll walk over say "hi" very softly and then come running back over to me. But kids she knows she is more friendly with, but it takes some time for her to feel comfortable talking to other kids.

Lashing out sounds like more of an issue.