Wow what a deadbeat BM...
The BM in our story is a diagnosed bipolor.
She is supposedly the primary parent even though her kids spend the whole week over here and "visit" her maybe two days a week. They never get to spend the night.
She is dirty, vile tempered, self-centered, and just stupid.
The kids come home with yeast infections because she won't buy toilette paper (she's trying to do the whole hippy washable cloth thing ... I know hippies who have kids. One woman shrieked because you're not supposed to even try that with children under seven)
She has gone a month and a half without even calling her children. Yet, strangely she can find the gusto to drive a hundred miles every week to go to kink parties.
This woman can't be trusted with the care and feeding of a dog, and yet she has primary custody of the children.
We can't set up a doctor's appointment for the kids when they're running a high fever, but she's got her phone turned off because responsibily might ruin her kink-high. We had to wait TWO WEEKS to get an appointment when one of the children had impentigo on his face. A staph infection that can lead to sever scarring and we can't even get him seen by a doctor because psycho BM can't be bothered to answer her bloody phone.
Yet she goes on and on about how an "awesome mommy" she is whenever her friends are around.
Did I mention that their BF (my S.O) is paying childsupport to her while she's collecting foodstamps for children who are never there?
Just shoot me.
Log it
Have Dad start a handwritten log of everything that happens. When he thinks he have enough carzy stuff go to his attorney and sue for sole custody and appropriate child support.
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There's an exception to everything I say.
Exactly, write everything
Exactly, write everything down. Get one of those planners from the dollar store and write EVERYTHING down. Exchanges, problems with the kids, problems with her, issues that need to be addressed. Judges like to see things on paper and if you have a log of everything she can't argue because she wont have proof of anything.
yall need to take her to
yall need to take her to court. have proof. thats child endangerment. get the custody order changed.