Why, oh why did he tell her BEFORE he did the test? What a dumb thing to do. He should have done the test, then used the results as leverage.

Its like my husband knowing skids and bio mum were trying to disinherit us and bully hubby into offloading assets he bought after divorce was final (his property), then me and hubby bought a property in my country of birth (put in my name) as we have 2 young kids together that if hubby were no longer around, I wouldn’t be subjected to unnecessary court where exwife claimed hubby promised blah blah blah and make fake wills and they try to steal money

the month before settlement, hubby decided to tell eldest sd who no doubt called bio mum right away that a decent chunk is going to daddys whore of a wife that he’s been married to for 5 yrs and has 2 young kids with...

luckily nothing happened thank god!!

I told my DH if he was going to drag me though his crazy baby momma drama right from the beginning he better get a DNA test done. He did. Paid for it and sent it off to a lab. The courts accepted the results. But I will say that if his name is on the birth certificate he has claimed the fatherhood of the child whether he is biologically the father or not. Can't tell you how many times I've seen ex husbands get stuck paying child support for another man's child because the wife had an affair but either didn't tell or know who the real father was until the kid had already gone years thinking the husband was their dad. 

Has he decided what he is going to do if she isn't his?

Dh didn't have to tell her about the test.

Are you hoping he's not the father!

There something not right with your DH.  Normal people would not tell the ex before the test.  Could tell after because  SD will tell her BM about it.   He making it hard on himself, trying to torpedo the whold thing 

TMI DH, TMI.  What is it about people who have suffered a failed family attempt that motivates them to think that they should engage with the X and share everything with them?

Particularly just before battling it out in court? My DW would periodically make the determination that the toxic blended family opposition had learned their lesson and could be dealt with reasonably.  She was always disappointed and did finally learn that there was only one thing they understood and that was firmly defined and applied limits with incredibly unpleasant consequences.

I think your DH will find that his sharing his plan for a paternity test with his X will make accomplishing his goals in the upcoming court event more difficult than if he had kept his lips zipped.

Why oh why did he tell her about dna test.

Side note, I wish every single child support order required a dna first. It should have been a requirement years ago when dna testing became easy.

AND if ncp wants to, at any time post divorce,  married to bm or not, GET IT DONE--the courts should honor it.

I know someone who's child they have paid support for, looks like bm's new husbands niece AND new husband AND new husbands dad. Follow that?

 What a heck of a thing. BMs new husband has been in the picture for decades too.

So many men are bamboozled.

My BIL2 found out recently that his DW has been cheating on him for years. "Their" daughter is almost 3.  He ordered a home paternity test with the intent of breaking any relationship with his STB X and her child if the baby is not his.  His wife cried, begged, etc... and now they are going to try to make it work.  He never mailed the test in.

Idiot!