BioMom just died. I'm married to BD. I'm SM
Ok, BM just died from self-induced liver failure from drugs and alcohol. She was 41. Now DH (Damn Husband) who normally works out of town has been here for 6 days and won't leave for another two. All of SMs family is here and they think they know everything but they are very simple people who think they're rocket scientists..the worst kind. DH is such a flipping waste he's worse than the girls. The girls have been great (13 and 17) HE is now the biggest problem. He is ugly in every way possible. I'm about to lose my mind. The service is tomorrow thank GOD. And then he leaves and is back on a normal schedule when he comes home late Mondays and leaves at 6:30am Wednesday. I am in charge and they listen to me but frankly I don't know how I'm going to get through the next couple of days. BM was a mean narcissistic sociopath and DH needs more parenting than the children combined. I've had to continuously put my foot down with him like an errant child. HELP!!!
Did you mean all of BM's
Did you mean all of BM's family is around instead of "SM's family"?
Yes, sorry I do mean BM's
Yes, sorry I do mean BM's family... and all of her druggie friends. This is very wholesome..NOT
Oh yeah, and I am going to be
Oh yeah, and I am going to be divorcing DH but not until the girls have probably a year of recovery from this. DH doesn't know of course and he is all in with me adopting them but I want Primary or 51% custody and I'm pretty sure he'll agree to it when the time comes.
AND, he is the one who works
AND, he is the one who works over an hour out of town and I am the one who is still here by choice. And I can't see him getting back here maybe ever. He's much happier having me take care of everything.
Condolences on the loss of
Condolences on the loss of the children's mother. It is good you are there for them.
Why would you plan on adopting the Stepkids if you plan to divorce DH?
Do you have children with DH?
If he works out of town so much when does he actually parent his children?
It may be best for another
It may be best for another next of kin care for the children IF bio dad is unable.
Island, even though YOU are married to dh you are still not next of kin. DH, then grandparents, aunts, uncles THEN cousins.
Protect your interests currently and in the future.
The law is the law.
You should let BMs family
You should let BMs family keep the kids until their dad comes back. Why would you watch them anyway if you are so against it and plan to leave him anyway? I'm confused.
It sounds like she cares very
It sounds like she cares very much about these kids. She may very well have a great relationship with them. It does happen.
Not sure how we can help you, op. But certainly come here to vent and we can give you some kind words. Wishing you the best in this difficult time...