When A Woman Fed Up !!!!!!
Hi, everyone. I'm new to this site and need a little advice. I'm sure my story is similiar to others but I need to get this off my chest. I've been married for 15yrs and 2 SD and 2 BM. Since the day we got married I had issues with one of them. They both have always been disrespectful to me as well as my house and yet my husband never said a word and defend me. Up to this day I have made amends with one of the BM but the other one is just a throne in my side. Both my SD live with us and the recent issue that occured just last week. One is my SD is pregnant, family memeber had a baby shower for her and I told my husband that if the BM was coming that I wouldn't attend. Low and behold my SD asked her mother to purchase the majority of the food and I didn't have a problem with that but since I have so much resentment towards her I didn't want the food to be stored in my house. I'm a true believer that the devil will use anyone and anything to get in your house and destroy it. I asked my husband to take the supplies to where the baby shower was being held in which he did. The day after the baby shower in which i didn't attend, I notice a bag of chicken in my refrigerator and I asked him was that the same chicken I asked not to store in my house he blantly lied and said he purchased it. I know it may sound petty but it just the principle because my husband allowed BM to destroy my home for 15yrs. He never see no wrong in her and feels what she does is acceptable. She would call me out of my name, tell my SD that I'm not her mom and she didn't have to listen to me and yet my husband wouldn't say a word. Now that my SD is about to have a baby I just feel the cycle is going to repeat itself because BM will think since her grandchild is in my house that she will have rights to come as she pleases. I have so much angry built up through out the years that I came out and told husband that I hate his BM, in which I know it was wrong but that's how I feel. My lease is up the end of June and I'm really considering getting an apartment by myself and just moving on.
Oh no that is a lot to go
Oh no that is a lot to go through & you came to the right place - welcome aboard
I would like to ask a couple of questions. Has your DH given you his reasons for not having your back? How is his behavior towards you when you talk about his offspring & their BM's? I thought having one BM was at times a nightmare but having two.. :jawdrop:
Nothing wrong with stepping back as you did & not even having the food around in my opinion. On the other hand, do you feel it could of added fuel to their fire? I don't fault you by all means its a messy situation to be caught up in no matter what you do. But yea if its making you very much so unhappy, getting an apartment to yourself could be your best bet. You could end up losing your DH worse case or he may come around & decide to stand up for you if he does not want to lose you.
Hi, the excuse my DH gives me
Hi, the excuse my DH gives me is that he wants to keep peace, which doesn't make sense. He gets defensive when I talk about his BM and blame their behavior on their upbringing. Honestly, I don't think it added fuel to the fire and I know for a fact the BM wouldn't allow DH to cause and disrespect to her home nor her boyfriend.
I can kinda understand your
I can kinda understand your frustrations...My SD and SS's bio mom does nothing but cause issues...My SO bites his tongue and just goes with the flow most of the time but ha if I were to do some of the things she does we would be arguing for days. HE SAYS its just how she is and she will keep the kids from him if she argues with him..It makes me so mad..I HATE HER with a passion. My blood just boils when I see her...She is a a horrible person in my eyes...She is constantly calling the cops and calling child services with false alligations...She makes stuff up to try and get her way..We have even had to go to court over some matters and the judge threw her case out cause she could tell how bogus it was...I hate dealing with it but if you love someone and want to be with that person you need to find a way to deal with the issues that come along with that person.