Sleeping and curfew
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This isn't going to sound like a huge deal.. But has turned into one in our house.!
Dh works at 4:30 am so usually goes to bed pretty early.. Bd15 curfew is 11 pm on weekends. . When she comes home she's very quiet but he hears the door open and close or the dog let's out a bark... And it wakes him up for a second.. The next day he fights with me all day about his interrupted sleep. I'm not changing her curfew. To 8 pm on weekends that seems highly unfair to her in my opinion.. He falls back instantly to sleep no Problem.... Thoughts?
Ear plugs
Ear plugs
That's what I said! Hurts his
That's what I said! Hurts his ears.. Waaaaa.ive had to wear ear plugs since we met his snoring is out of control
There's a bigger issue he's
There's a bigger issue he's not talking about. Next time whine about how he hates your daughter! LOL jk How about a noise machine to drown out the other noise? Or just tell him to stop being a big baby. You could ask him what's really bothering him, not that he would tell you.
At least he has the luxury of
At least he has the luxury of falling back asleep....So how is he so tired the next day? Mack's earplugs. Roll the wax into a cylinder and stick it in your ear. I have worn them for 20 years. Even when I lived alone. They don't hurt.
I'm on the fence on this one.
I'm on the fence on this one. I also work late on Friday and Saturday nights, sometimes I don't get home and get to bed anywhere from 2am to 5am. The skids are told to keep it quiet until 10am the next morning, and I LOATHE when they wake me up. I mean I just want to go out there and ring their little necks. And I also loathe DH when he lets them thump around in the living room like its a gymnasium, or when he lets them rile the dog up and she barks . . . I KNOW how angering and frustrating it can be.
I work hard, and I deserve some quiet time. Same thing goes for your DH - I'm sure he works hard, he financially contributes to the household, and therefore his needs take precedence over the needs/wants of a child.
On the other hand . . it doesn't sound like anyone is being flippant about being respectfully quiet - it seems like you all try very hard, and he needs to understand that. You all need to have a chat, then a big group hug. Remind BD to be VERY quiet when entering/exiting. Put the dog in the bedroom with DH so it will stay quiet? Have BD text you when she's coming home so you can keep the dog quiet? Have DH sleep with a fan running in the bedroom to drown out some of the noise? That's what I do. I bought a cheap fan from WalMart and run it right beside my side of the bed - the white noise works wonders.
Bottom line though: needs of contributing adult > needs/wants of dependent child
I agree. His needs come first
I agree. His needs come first before your daughter's curfew needs. There must be some sort of compromise to be achieved, and it wouldn't hurt to find out if he will tell you what is bothering him above and beyond interrupted sleep. (And I think the comments you're receiving would have been different if you'd said it was your SD waking you up - they would have been far less critical of his complaints, I think.)
Agreed, contributing adult
Agreed, contributing adult outweighs needs of BD. Try find a compromise that doesn't disturb DH.
Try a white noise machine.
Try a white noise machine.
A double tequila on the rocks
A double tequila on the rocks with jalapeno olives about an hour before bedtime. He will sleep like a baby and this will be entirely a non issue.