Ok, I have posted on this little brat before and been given amazing advice by everyone on here - thank you!

This time I need serious help as I am considering moving out as a result of SK10 - he is making everyone miserable, especially my daughter and I.

Both the DH and I work full time. We have a nanny that comes every day from 9 - 5 and she is great with the kids and they love her. No issues there. Yesterday, I get home (I typically get home 15-20 minutes beore DH) and do my typical "how was your day?" to our nanny. She looks at me and says we need to talk. Oh man..

1. SK10 is the last one up and decides to sit on the couch and pick at/irritate his older brother first thing in the morning - yelling, disagreeing with everything SK12 says - pick pick pick.. (this is typical of SK10) So the nanny sends him to his room.. He talks back and yells at her all the way up the stairs.

2. After a while they decide to go to Wal-Mart. SK12 has money he has saved and wants to buy a new DS game. SK10 calls SK12 "stupid" for wanting to buy a particular game. Nanny reprimands him verbally. SK10 yells, complains, is nasty and talks back all the way to Wal-Mart. They all get there and SK10 won't get out of the car. Instead he takes his own sweet time putting his flip flops back on and getting out of the car (again, this is a constant issue with him) while everyone stands in the hot sun waiting on him.

3. They get into Wal-Mart and he proceeds to grab a giant bouncy ball and kick it down the aisles. When the nanny tells him to stop, he argues with her telling her "I want to buy this ball with my money so I'm kicking it".. she tells him no, he isn't buying anything due to his attitude and he throws a fit like a 2 year old. Screaming and yelling and making a scene in the store. Gets put in his room again when he gets home - this time with added slamming of door and throwing/slamming things in his room.

4. Lunchtime she makes them a pizza. SK10 wants coke. We limit his sugar because he had ADHD and he is a 113lb 10 year old!!!! SK12 is permitted a 1/2 cup of coke occasionally, SK10 rarely. Nanny informs him of the rules and says I will allow you to have a little bit and that's all. She pours him a small amount and leaves the room to go get something. When she walks back in (he doesn't see her) he has drank that cup of coke, pours another, gulps that down and begins to pour yet another.. then she speaks up and he says "you said I could have some coke" - she replies, yes, I poured you what you can have. He says "I didn't pour more - that's what you gave me".. lies lies lies - the kid will look you right in the eyes and lie to your face with no remorse. She sends him to his room AGAIN - more door slamming, more throwing things around.

By this time he has spent almost 1/2 his day in time out - you would think he would learn. NOPE.

Later in the day (and this is what cuts me to the bone) is SK10 & 12 are playing with a piano keyboard that they gave to my daughter last spring as a gift when she started voice/piano lessons. They were so sweet to do this for my daughter and it really is one of those warm memories that makes me go "awww" when I think about it - until yesterday.

SK10 is sitting there on the piano and looks at SK12 and says "if dad and Vanessa ever break up we are so taking this keyboard from Katie (my daughter)".. at the time my daughter wasn't even THERE. She did nothing to deserve this mean hateful premeditated comment. It was out of left field. It's not the first time he has said hateful stuff about my daughter, but I would have to say this was the most thought out, not heat of the moment one.

His father gets home and I make the nanny tell him everything. No way am I delivering this to him. He already is under the impression I have it out for these kids - now it's apparent they have it out for my daughter and me. I am beyond pissed. However, I don't even say one word to that kid. I'm done.

I try to explain to his father that this is serious. Even the nanny (who is getting a teaching degree in special needs children) is in shock and comments that the kid has major anger/rage issues and it seems that no matter how you punish him (taking away TV, video games, time out, going to room, etc) it does not phase him.

After the nanny leaves DH starts downplaying EVERYTHING.. I am furious. A fight ensues and SK10 gets what he wants. DH and I are mad at each other and not talking. I am so sick of this and am contemplating throwing in the towel. At 113lbs and 10 years old he is a threat and his father keeps feeding the monster. I am worried about all the hate and rage he has against my daughter and I and fear that someday he will get physically violent with one of us. The writing is on the wall that as a 13 year old this kid will be a danger to all and I want no part of it.

Please help me..