Pregant SD20 moved in with her Husband and their two dogs
Help! My DH is driving me crazy. He doesnt want SD and Her husband living with us. Complains to me all the time about their dogs and about how lazy they are. Wont say anything to her/him. I blew up and told him to grow some balls and say something to them. They have been living with us for about two months. Was suppose to move out into a family members home after one month. Still hasnt happened. When I ask they said it wouldnt be ready for another month. Since I blew up SD's MIL is posting on facebook that they now need a place to stay ASAP. No conversation with us at all. Neither have jobs and do nothing all day. My BS folds towels, vacuums dog hair ect. While they watch cartoons in their bed room and do nothing.
Why does my DH have such a problem talking with her? It has always been like this. He ignores her, stays away as much as possible and refuses to communicate his opinion and feelings with her. Then ends up taking his frustrations out on me.
I'm more aggravated at DH than I am the young pregnant adults.
Why cant we have an adult conversation about all of this? If I start one, then I am being nosy and she pouts and her dad refuses to say a word.
I walked on egg shells in my first marriage and said I would never do it again, yet here I am. Dont really know how much more of it I can take. Any advise will be helpful. I dont think they are moving because they have no money to move on. But something has to give.
No longer happy in my own home.
Oh my how in the world did
Oh my how in the world did they ever make it into your home in the first place? Tell the boy he needs to go back to his parents house. Hell tell his mom that as well. IF your DH isn't on board with this then go get yourself an apartment. Please tell me you aren't doing their laundry or making their meals!
Her husband was got early
Her husband was got early release from Air Force. His mom has her oldest son his wife and their child living at home, along with her daughter her daughters husband and their kid, and another son. I guess she needs to build another bed room for her other son and my SD. These two will not even take their dogs over there because they do not get along with his mothers dogs!!! yet I have a small male dog that they leave locked up all day while I'm at work so their big male dog can run around the house. My SD talks shit about her MIL most of the time. But she is friends with who ever is giving to her. If you are not giving her something she no longer wants anything to do with you.
My SD feels like she cant work now that she is pregnant and her husband only applies for "easy" jobs. That he is still waiting to here back from.
They had a little money saved but I'm sure it is about gone now. They eat out all the time, go places and spend money like they have no worries. I guess they dont. All they have to do is sit around and watch cartoons all day.
Sounds like a 16 and pregnant
Sounds like a 16 and pregnant episode to me. You should inform them they missed that boat about 4 years ago. What a mess!
Your situation is the whole
Your situation is the whole reason I found this site.
My SD and her husband wanted to "stay" with us, except instead of 2 dogs, they had 2 kids.
A little too quickly, I told DH, "Absolutely not!" I didn't even pretend to think about it. And then, I felt a little guilty. Then I found this site and didn't feel guilty anymore. Turns out, the couple of weeks they wanted to stay with us turned into them living with other family members for 6 months.
Give them a move out date and let her pout. In the meantime, take back your house.
You married this guy because
You married this guy because you liked his traits and apparently one of them is he won't face up to people. That probably includes you and you liked the fact that you're in charge. Well when it comes to his kids nothing has changed. He won't face them and since you like being in charge its up to you to do it.
Tell them June 15 is the end of it and give them the name and address of the local welfare agency that most counties run. They can get them food rations, housing etc. and probably help for pregnant women. Double check this but I think the Army is still recruiting and they love ex-servicemen.