Last week DH and bio mom from hell were having a disagreement (text war) and all of a sudden out of nowhere she texts "your wife shouldn't be taking my son to go see her boyfriend at the firehouse. your son saw her little love letter and told me all about it."

Of course DH and I are rock solid, so this was laughable.. and totally common for the crazy bio mom to do. She hates me, we know this and it's not out of her element to make insane accusations about me. Of course, usually they are just from her and she never involves the kids, so this was a little more on the "WTF" side than ususal..

Dh knew I took the kids to the firehouse for a tour. I'm in sales and the firehouse buys products from me - I'm their account manager and over the course of my time managing their account I have become pretty cool with these guys. They are a good bunch and are easy to work with. They extended the offer months ago to bring the kiddos out for a tour of the place and fire trucks. Well, when they were having their annual fish fry I thought "what a great idea - dinner and a tour - the kids will LOVE it". DH had to coach for the older SS that night, so it was just me and the two kids; ss12 and my bd10.

Everything went great. Kids ate a ton of fish and the tour was really fun. SS12 got to try on firemen hats, jackets, sit in the drivers seat of the big rig, honk the horn, etc.. I thought he had a blast.

Now, we were sent this text on a Thursday and both skids were meeting their grandma (Dh's mom) to go spend spring break with her. Crazy bio mom was meeting her 1/2 way, so the kids weren't with us when this new allegation was dropped. We called grandma and told her the news and asked if she would tell us if SK12 says anything to her. Oh did he! As soon as he got in the car he couldn't wait to tell her "step mom is cheating on dad - I saw a note from her to her boyfriend." Granny is pretty cool, so she asked him how he was so sure it was from stepmom.. he swears he knows it is because it is her writing..

A little history between sk12 and myself - it's been rocky. Dh and I have had some ups and downs and mostly it has been because of his kids. They are difficult, spoiled, disrespectful, unappreciative and feel completely entitled to everything and anything. At first, DH and I battled and I was always wrong.. kids were always right. This was in the beginning and has since done a 180 and we are rock solid and unified. DH gets it and has my back - hence the reason SK12 went to el' nutso mama with this latest attempt to toss me under the bus.

Grandma talked to SK12 and told him how wrong he was for doing this. Dh and I are going to talk to him when he comes back. Although, I have to be very honest.. I'm pissed and not really in the frame of mind to do anything but tell this kid this is bullshit and ground him for the remainder of his life. This makes me not want to do anything for this kid, not even acknowledge his existience for a long time.

Thoughts? Questions?