Yea, he just seems to have a more normal, rational head on him. He is able to swim through everyones crap and see the truth. Its really nice to have at least 1 of his kids with that sort of mind frame.

He just said he was "bored' at work (he works nights) went into a chat room on KIK. Was talking with a bunch of people from all over the USA. Then, a woman who lives in our next town over started chatting with him and instead of doing the RIGHT thing and ending it there he continued to talk with her and got caught up in it. It was for about a month. Not too long. He chose to stay in our marriage which people may be saying, "Why did you choose to stay in your marriage?" but I believe it in. I also believe in mistakes and it could have easily been any of us caught up at the right time in the wrong moment. So, we are trying. He is trying.

Yes, he kids do know. That is what absolutely baffles me. HE cheated on ME. HE created all this CHAOS but his daughter is BLAMING ME. Saying she didn't want us to stay together and she was "faking" happy all this time in our home. Its awful. They treat him SO awful with no help or support from BM. She is probably happier then a pig in poop over there watching her kids treat him disrespectfully, talk poorly about him and me.. etc. I can't understand it. I am a BM as well with a daughter from a previous relationship. I would NEVER EVER allow things to get to where they are between her and her father. BUT, BM and I are VERY different with VERY different backgrounds so... she is a peach tree and I am a pear tree and we will never be the same or understand one another probably.

There has always been trouble with the kids because their mother couldn't stand that I even existed. It wouldn't matter what women DH was with. She would treat them all poorly and train the kids to as well. I have been enemy #1 since Day #1 (unless she needed something and then I was ok).