OK, it's been ages since I've been here. I know I don't have it as bad as some but I realize that I have been putting up with being treated like wallpaper for too long.

Talked to DH and he is agreeable as of a few days ago that it is unacceptable for his son to refuse to say my name aloud. We pushed this issue a short while ago and right now stepson is upstairs in purgatory. So how do we enforce this?

He won't say why he refuses to say my name except to say "It's weird." So folks, now what? He admitted to me a little over a year ago, back when he actually DID say my name aloud that BM told him that he should IGNORE me but that he thought that was sorta impossible. So it seems likely that BM is influencing him negatively which is technically a violation of a legal agreement she signed. DH has decided at this point not to confront her.

Sorry to be so long winded, really, I could go on and on, but I REFUSE to be BLATANTLY treated like a stranger in my own home.