I am married and have no bio children with my wife. I do however have 2 stepchildren, a girl and a boy, with my previous wife. My children are extremely important to me, however for the past few months, I have not seen them once. I had to stop seeing the children because of the incompatability with their mother, my ex. Things grew increasingly out of control and I took the time to step out of the picture to get our individual lives in order. My current spouse recently came to me crying and stated that I needed to do whatever I could do to get the kids back into our lives. I could not describe the feeling I had. I was so overjoyed, but at the same time, apprehensive because of the volatile past between my kids bio mom and their stepmom. I took the chance and restarted the parenting relationship for the benefit of the children and what I thought at the time was the benefit of everyone. My schedule takes me away every other saturday but on that weekend, I am home on friday and sunday all day. My wife stated that she wanted that to be our visitation weekend and that she would keep the children on Saturday. No problems right? Wrong. After the first visit, which I took a sick day for, my spouse and I fought for 2 days. She claimed that all I cared about was my kids and that her and her girls, who were not home on our visitation time, were taking a backseat "once again." We talked about it and agreed that she was being a bit irrational and basing her opinion heavily on how it was in the past, when there was such a great deal of stress that I contemplated eating a bullet several times. To my surprise, after feeling like we were on teh same page again, I tried to plan the schedule for this upcoming weekend so that it wasnt a last minute rush and stress. She immediately became angry, began bashing me verbally, and told me to grow the fuck up and be a man. "Make a decision and then come to me and ask me for help, IF you need me." It was her idea to bring the children back into our lives and now, even though I am making every attempt to make it a smooth transition, she is appearing to be more and more aggressive and hateful when the children are brought up. I believe her last comment before she left was, "I wish I had a magic eraser that would erase you from my life." I didn't yell, I didn't fight back, just let her vent and took the pain in stride. I am at a loss as to what to do in this situation. I can't afford, nor do I have the time for traditional marriage counseling, but I fear that regardless of my efforts, this will destroy our marriage and take me away from her two girls, whom I love very much. WHAT DO I DO??