I have a very difficult situation with my boyfriends parents and exwife.
We have been together off and on for the past four years. The majority of our problems come from his parents and exwife trying to get him and the ex back together. We have broken up several times over it and it has caused other "side" problems when we are split up.
He and his ex were married for two years with two kids. After they divorced - he and I got together. It was really good at first. His ex did not like me from the start. She would say terrible things about me to his kids and cause them to treat me terribly. I tried to work with that at first but now I find out that his parents have been actively working with his ex behind the scenes to get them back together.
It all came to a head this last July. We broke up and then the opportunity came up for them to get back together. Even though he always told me he was over her - he did entertain getting back with her for two weeks after our split. He realized he made a mistake. After much hurt and talking - we got back together in November.
Problem is - now that all that happened - his parents will not have anything to do with me - they tell him I am trying to break he and his ex up. They have invited her to all family functions now and have said I am not welcome.
Thanksgiving was a disaster. The ex was invited along with my boyfriend. He did not go because she was there.
Now Christmas is here. For the past three years - my boyfriend has taken his kids to his parents for Christmas Eve family party and I have gone with him. This year they invited his ex. They are still trying to get them back together. She is going and he told them all he will not go because she is going. Yhe ex called him crying saying that he should be with his kids. They are all mad at him and blame me for this. The ex told my boyfriend that when we were broke up he told her he would always put her first.
Now my boyfriend will not spend Christmas Eve with his family and kids.
I texted him last night and told him he should not be away from his family on Christmas and he should go. I got no reply. If he does not go I feel he will blame me for not being with his family.
Exactly what they are counting on.
What do I do?????