I WANT OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP!!!! NEED ADVICE!!!!
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i am so unhappy. i want it to be me and my bd3 only---no bf, no sd11. i am so fed up with everyone! he has ruined my life, so has sd11, and i know i am also to blame for allowing myself to get so low but dammit putting the blame soley on them makes me feel the least bit better.
how do i get out of this relationship? i dont want anymore contact with either sd11 or bf. problem is, bd3 is half bf's. or maybe i should stay with him for the kids sake?
i am so screwed up right now, my bd3 is sick with a cold and i am in so much pain from my period. otc stuff doesnt work for me, bf knows this, and i have no health insurance. yet, he wont help out with the kids or house.
im rambling now. sorry.
Stop - Breathe - You are not stuck!
You have had one lousy rotten day, eh? I've read some of your other entries, and I know it has been a trying time. My first recommendation - do not make a decision when you are feeling completely overwhelmed and ill.
One thing - the decision to stay is not "for the kid's sake". A toxic relationship is not better for a kid. If it is really not going to work - then ending the relationship is better than not.
I don't know what will be right for you to do, but to make the decision and get unstuck, try writing down the "pros and cons" of your situation - this is just an exercise for you to do in private to help you decide. It seems silly, but I have found when I am really uptight, it can help me focus.
But first - get some sleep, feel better, and then start on it. It isn't easy, but you will make the right decision - then make the plan on what you need to do to get there. Take it easy, I'm thinking of you.