I just dont understand
I have never posted anything, but here it goes.
I am a sm of a 12 year old boy, I have a 10 year old son, and a 7 year old daughter. My dh and I habe been together for 5 years and I was always hoping it would get better, but it isnt. My dh's ex is a monster, constantlly taking him back to court for cs increases and modification of custody order.
I want so badly to love my ss that it hurts. He seems very unattached and very distant when he is here. My children love him and get very disappointed when he has a boyscout event or something that keeps him from coming on the weekends. We are to have him Tuesday and Thursday evenings and everyother weekend.
Last summer we had the oppurtunity to keep him Wensday and he through a fit stating he would miss his friends at daycare too much. Now I finally got my dream job at the middle school where we live and so we have the oppurtunity to have him everyother week, which is the split with my children and thier bf. My dh talked to him about it yestetday and my ss stated that he would think about it.
I just dont understand. It doesnt seem to bother my dh at all that his son wouldnt want to spend more time with us if given the chance. My dh thinks it is because his bm has " put stuff in his head". Even if that would be the case, why not pushthe issue? Get him to talk and find out why? It seems to me if a 12 year old boy doesnt want to spend more time with his father there is some kind of disconnect...am I wrong?
It frusterates me because I feel helpless and it hurts me that my children want to be more involved with my ss and he seems to not care. How do I deal?
Us having my ss would only be
Us having my ss would only be through the summer.
Since you have only been a
Since you have only been a member for an hour, I am suspecting you could be a "faker". We had a couple fakers making profiles posting in the blog section and ended up getting found out. So putting it out there I kind of think you could be. Since the fakers were found out in the blog section and you are now a new member posting in the forums.
If not, then cool. But letting it be known what I stated above.
i would be jumping for joy if
i would be jumping for joy if my SD didn't want anything to do with us. Instead she clogs up the phone with texts and calls that only hurt my DH and make our home a drag almost daily!
Let you DH handle this. I'd back off...... really you wont ever have this kids love. Not ever. No matter what you do unless you let a house drop on you.
I dont understand the jumping
I dont understand the jumping for joy....we want him to want to be here more with us, my bh, our other children, and me. I am pushing the issue because I want us all together more. He isnt just someone who comes to our house for a visit, he is my bh's son, he is a member of our family.
I am not intersted in
I am not intersted in persuing anything legally myself.... i get that I have no legal rights. I just thought this would be a good place to vent and get some support or ways of dealing. My bh does want him here more, I stated that in a earlier comment.
You need to let your husband
You need to let your husband take the lead on this. It is not your kid, he is clearly PAS'd by his mom. Not much you can do about it. Me,most of us would love to have this problem. As for the scouting, I am a huge advocate of the program and believe, that nothing should interfere with it. But, why is Dad not doing the activities with him? That is his deficit, not the kids or the BM's.