I am 25 and my girlfriend is 33. She has an eight year old daughter who I honestly cannot stand, and I honestly am not sure why. To further explain, I'll provide some background: My girlfriend and I met online late 2011. We began to chat and eventually met up, and ever since we were seemingly inseperable. We had so much fun, we traveled, and she truly helped me grow up in a sense and strive for more. I met her during a time when her life was going through a transitional period. She was going through some financial problems and was forced to leave her home, but I was happy to help her in any way I could. However, I have honestly never cared for her daughter. Not only that, but I never thought that I would be in a relationship with a woman who had a child, but since I did not interact much with her child it didnt matter much to me at the time. (I know now that this may not have been the best decision).

When we first met, her daughter was extremely spoiled and was honestly pretty annoying with all of her questions and just constantly wanting to be around her mom. She does not have her father in her life, so I tried to understand the separation anxiety that she has, and why she did not want to be away from her mom but it was still very annoying. It was getting to the point where the relationship nearly ended mostly because of the daughter. However, I had a strong love for my girlfriend, so I stuck it out, even though I was never really planning a "forever" with her. However, last year I learned that my girlfriend was pregnant, which truly freaked me out. I knew the moment she told me about the pregnancy that I felt a strong need/obligation to be the best father that I could be, which I still feel. My girlfriend amd I have a five year plan to finish our degree programs and to move to a new city, so that our daughter would not have to grow up in MD, which we are both against. However, the plan includes all of us living together in order to save money, at least until we relocate.

This means that I would have to be around her daughter, who once again I am not very fond of, on a daily basis The problem is, at this point I am not even sure why I have such a STRONG dislike for her. In fact, she has improved from when we first met. I just get so annoyed by her, and I do not like it when she is around. I am trying to remember that she is just a child, and pretty much a normal child but I honestly get depressed when she is around. And now myself, her mom, the daughter, and our daughter are cramped in a 1 bedroom apt, maybe for the next few years until we have enough saved to leave the state. Right now I am just very unhappy with the whole thing and frustrated. I am not saying any of this to sound like a terrible person. But I really need some advice on how I can at least stomach her daughter and our situation in the event that we will be together for the next few years. ANY help with this will be greatly appreciated.