Fiancee's Family HATES me... they refuse to be around me in any way
Hello everyone. First I would like to say how glad I am to find this site.
I am divorced with 4 Biological children, 16, 13, 6, and 2. My fiancee has a 6 year old son from a college relationship, he was never married.
Our relationship had a very complicated beginning. My fiancee and I had been friends for a few years. Our lives were very intermingled, I was close friends with his sister and very fond of the rest of his family. HIs family had always been very warm and welcoming. I was invited to his family functions and enjoyed the time I spent with them. My fiancee was friends with my (then) husband.
My marriage was ending and I felt a lot of support from the family. (Then-husband hit me for the first time, and that was the final straw for me)
During this time, the friendship began to blossom into something more. My feelings for my husband had changed a long time even before the domestic violence incident. I found myself falling in love with my long time friend, and although we were hesitant to begin what we knew would be a very complicated relationship, we decided that our love was worth any turbulence that it would cause.
We decided
I can strongly relate to the
I can strongly relate to the IL thing. :O
You say that your fiancee has
You say that your fiancee has a 6 yo from a college relationship and you have 4 kids with the oldest being 16? His family probably has a few concerns. It sounds like there is an age difference. They may be concerned that this is a rebound relationship and you have 4 children, which is expensive and complicated. They may just want their son to have a chance to marry someone and start a family of his own.
I have to be honest, I would be literally on my knees begging my son to rethink his decision. We've all been through the blended family issues or we wouldn't be on this site. My guess is his family knows how hard this is going to be and want him to put some serious thought in to it. I know that's not what you wanted to hear but it doesn't sound like this is going to go well for you. Sorry.