Hi! I’m a long time reader, but this is my first post!

So long story (kind of) short, I have a BD8, who lives with DH and I full time except summer break, and SD14 & SD11 who we have 50/50 custody of. All 3 go to school in the neighborhood where DH and I live. For the last 3 school years (ever since we moved here) all of the kids have walked home from school together to our house, since it was only one block, and then BM would pick them up on her way home from work on her custody days. 

Initially this worked out because then my 5/6/7 year old didn’t have to walk home alone and I didn’t have to go down and get her. Win win. 

Well now BD8 is going into 3rd grade and I feel like she’s old enough to manage the walk to and from school alone. Plus, SD11 and SD14 have transitioned to the middle/high school in our neighborhood from the elementary school so they won’t even be attending the same school anymore. 

Instead of the skids coming over to our house every.single.school.day and waiting until BM picks them up (around 3 hours later) I’ve told DH I want BM to make alternate arrangements on her custody days. Either have SD’s ride the school bus to her house, find someone to pick them up, I don’t really care...

It wouldn’t be a huge issue, but I’m a police officer who works night shift, so I sleep during the day, and I’m sick to death of being woken up by his kids trashing my house every day. They come home from school, immediately start raiding the pantry, throwing their crap all over the house, watching tv too loud and running up and down the stairs like wild animals. I’m DONE. 

I feel like I’m being used as a free after school daycare. 

And DH isn’t even home at this time of day so it’s just me that has to deal with it. 

Am I out of line to ask them to not come over if it isn’t DH custody day?! I get no break from them. I’m tired.