Do you think this will affect my child?
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I have a 3 month old child with my boyfriend. My boyfriend has 3 other kids a 8 and 13 year old with 1 woman and a 9 year old with another woman. I'm worried that when my child gets older and see all these different siblings he has, has different mothers but same dad all of them live in separate houses and are being raised differently. Do you think all of this disfunction will mess my child up or his other kids behavior will rub off on my child because his 8 and 9 year old is very bad and they have no home training
He has an 8 year old and 13
He has an 8 year old and 13 year old with one woman and a 9 year old with another? So he had one kid with one woman, then one kid with another woman, then went back to the first woman and had another kid with her? That right there is weird to me.
No he had a one night stand
No he had a one night stand with the 9 year old kid mom on the other kids mother
I think that's called
I think that's called cheating.
Exactly what advice are you looking for? It comes down to how you want to raise your child. Your choices greatly influence the life your child will have.
Yes, it will affect your
Yes, it will affect your child. So will the choices made by both mother and father when the child becomes aware of them.
It is possible that you could somewhat insulate your child based on age difference, by any time the kids spend together yeah, it will affect your child. If your 8 year old sees bad behavior out of their 16, 17 and 21 year old siblings and it goes uncorrected by dad and isn't spoken of by you and they are allowed free, unsupervised time with you kid, of course it will affect your kid.
Waita second? I am confused
Waita second? I am confused by the math. He has an 8yo and 13yo with one woman and a 9yo with another?
So, he was splitting time between the beds of two different women?
You chose to spawn with a proven adulteror and are now worried about his distinguished record of parental failure based on the behaviors of his 3 elder spawn. Wow. :jawdrop:
A little late now isn't it?
Yes, if you allow him to parent your child as he has parented his elder 3 your kid is screwed.
^^^^^^^ All of what Rags
^^^^^^^ All of what Rags said. *facepalm*
Hahahaha, Really? You need to
Hahahaha, Really?
You need to come to an anonymous Internet forum to ask if your child will be messed up by having a father who is a cheater and has multiple children with multiple women?
This is why we don't hop into
This is why we don't hop into bed with any Tom, DICK, or Harry!!
Get to know someone. Date. Get engaged. Plan for your future. Get married. Build a life. Then have a family.
Ugh.
Forget your child's siblings,
Forget your child's siblings, his father's lack of morals/values and your poor judgement will screw him up.
I know you want to blame the kids and their mothers, but you are the one who picked a loser to be the father of your child.
Yes, it will. You picked a
Yes, it will. You picked a substandard male to be the father of your child, and it's the child who will suffer for it.
Your baby daddy is the
Your baby daddy is the problem. The other kids and baby mamas are just accessories to the entire situation.
Where on earth was your BRAIN when you got yourself into this mess?
Hopefully it shows your kid
Hopefully it shows your kid many things like: don't be a cheater like dad, don't have one night stands that lead to kids that to ending marriages, try to avoid broken homes or having a relationship with someone with kids already, etc things of that nature. Your life is going to be chaotic with two bms and three other children and that's fact. The kid will see how complicated it is to deal with all this and hopefully choose to simplify his own future life and avoid steplife in general and the choices made to get here.
Thank you for that
Thank you for that prospective I hope so
So you plan to raise your
So you plan to raise your child in this mess?? :sick: :jawdrop:
Well your boyfriend isn't so
Well your boyfriend isn't so bad. One of our patients told me a few years ago he has fathered 43 children by various mothers around town. He is in his 70s and I just said "Oh, really?" His daughter behind him just nodded and said "Its true." This was his lifetime achievement.
So your boyfriend has a long way to go, doesn't he? :jawdrop:
Raise your child as you see fit. Remove him from the influence of the other children by taking him out when the others are there. Museums, parks, lakes. Broaden his horizons. And do not have any other kids with this person.
Yes I agree I think when
Yes I agree I think when you're young or just meet a someone u don't really think about all the baggage they come with until it's to late