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Dealing with Bedrooms

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Submitted by seekingpatience on Thu, 05/08/2014 - 7:13am

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Just wondering how everyone deals with bedrooms with the EOW step kids. Does the room get used for something else while the kid is not there? Does the room get cleaned before they leave or do they leave it a mess? My DH has his kid "clean" up his room but its a half-assed job and theres still toys, blankets, and crap left lying around. Last week I cleaned it cuz it was such a huge mess but i really wish DH would handle that. but then i think he would probably tell me that what was the big deal, nobody really uses that room while skid is not there anyway. and you know what, i just think its BS to have to keep a room in a house that only gets used 4 days a month.

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Submitted by wth was I thinking on Thu, 05/08/2014 - 7:15am

I close the door when they leave, and I don't even think about them. Smile It's nice to have the extra closet.

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Submitted by morethanibargai... on Thu, 05/08/2014 - 7:17am

SD's room was originally a "kid room" for when my nieces would come to visit. After SO and I lived together for about 6 months and SD came over consistently, I redecorated and turned it into "her" bedroom. I now wish I wouldn't have because she doesn't even appreciate it.
I agree that it is a waste of a perfectly good room for 4 days a month. Now that SD is refusing to come over i'm considering turning it into storage or a sewing room. I'm afraid it would upset SO though.

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Submitted by Accordn2L on Thu, 05/08/2014 - 8:21am

MY SD8 has her own room but we have her 50/50. I make her clean the room from top to bottom on Sunday before she leaves including washing the bedding and putting it back on. Then I shut the door and try not to think about her while she isn't there. It is not fair for skids to leave you a mess to clean up when they leave.

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Submitted by step off already on Thu, 05/08/2014 - 11:59am

Oh, the rooms. My bios are here about 60% of the time. My DD13 has her own room and ds9 and ds11 share. SS14 is here and visits bm eowe.

Now we have our baby - who is with us full time. We are going to be making her a room from some of the common area in the home. It will be the smallest room of all the children (for the only one who lives here full time). When the first kid moves out, I will claim that room as hers