Hi there,
im new and wanted to vent this as i dont know if im crazy or i have a valid point.
i have been with my fiance for nearly 2 years he has a 3 year old with another woman who he has every other weekend, and we have a one year old daughter together.
now my soon to be step son is causing me agro and i swear im going grey with age because of it, my fiance seems to think to put it bluntly the sun shines out his backside when frankly he is the oddest naughtistchild i ever come across.
when he comes round he talks and talks about nothing,just basically because he wants to be centre of attention, he only eats crisps, cereal and biscuits for breakfast lunch and tea, only because my fiance is stupid enough to ask what he wants, he asks for it he gets it even though its not right at all in my mind or healthy.
he wont play on his own he shadows us all the time we cant have a moments peice, and the weidest of all he wears mine and his mothers jewellery, walks round in my skirts and shoes and says he has a handbag and dress of his own at home....his dad well he doesnt think this is wrong he will grow out of it???...alarm bells to most people i think.
Our daughter who is one my soon to be step son is so jealous of her and everytime anyone gives her any attention he pouts and sulks...and then all of a sudden attention must be on him as my partner feels because he doesnt have him much he must be top priority to the extent he will actually ignore our daughter and it upsets me so much, he ruined her first birthday because he was at work all day so i saved a present that he brought for our daughter to give to her when he got home, and the little brat of step son was there, he wouldnt give it to her because her didnt want him feeling left out?? so no birthday presents to ever be given to my daughter or any manner of presents in front of him???? also he goes beyond stupid the other week i gave my daughter some medicine becuase you know she was unwell and my fiance said give his son some so he doesnt feel left out??? what planet is that acceptable.
if i try to suggest anything to my partner about his parenting skills he blows my head off says when his son is here he is focus of attention i look after our daughter all that weekend, not him at all. when she gets older i see this being a big problem dont you.
its got too much that i actually hate his son because i feel that when he is here he dictates the entire household...my partner is great with our daughter when hes not there so he obviously favours his son more than our daughter although he denies this.