BM doing 8th graders homework..
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DH and SS were talking and SS said he finished his essay but has to email his mom his essay before sending it so she can edit it and write more if needed. We were like ????? What do you think?? Acceptable or enabling??? He's going to be in HS next year.
Yes, it's enabling, and
Yes, it's enabling, and cheating, and par for the course for a HCBM.
We don't know what to do with
We don't know what to do with these kids. She raises them so different then we are trying but she had them more. It's so hard.
Been there. Her way won out.
Been there. Her way won out.
What do you mean her way "won
What do you mean her way "won" like at home, with court!??
write more if needed
Punctuation, spelling, and grammar edits suggested by parent and done by child acceptable since it is done at home. Parent writing more, never acceptable.
Lots of parents seem to think that done at home means completed by parent. The one they are hurting is their own child who never learns the skill.
On the bright side, BM didn't do the whole thing. She let him do the first draft.
He sends it to her. She edits
He sends it to her. She edits as she sees fit and sends it back to him to turn in with her edits.
What happens
When kid has to do it in the classroom and it's total different. .?? Suprise. surprise
There's nothing wrong with BM
There's nothing wrong with BM proofreading/editing, IMO, unless the teacher has said otherwise. When I was in school, teachers encouraged us to have others read and edit our work, and said that parents often can give the best "peer edit." Part of editing is suggesting that more might be necessary. Rewriting it for him (as opposed to giving suggestions and pointing out things that are incorrect or could be done better) isn't right, and writing more for him is just wrong. Kids are supposed to learn from an edit and they won't learn if a parent is just rewriting/ writing for them. BM isn't doing the SS any favors.
Ummmm can you say CHEATING!
Time for the teachers to learn the facts so they can ride this kid's ass to do his own damn work. I would throw both BM and the SKid under the bus with the school.