Blended family event - Part 2
We had yesterday our big blended family event.
But as I suspected BM misbehaved, and my DH too...I do feel like an idiot now because of these three incidents:
1) At church: DH made me sit in the middle of ex MIL and BM. He sat at another bench.
2) DH whispered something to BM's ear, and put an arm around her waist :jawdrop:. I still cannot believe it.
3) Later BM came to our table and put her arm aroun DH's neck. Everyone sitting there gave her a dissapointed look (including me).
I felt so uncomfortable, wanted to run away but I didn´t, I tried to act normal the rest of the night.
But when we arrived home I exploded and we had a big argument. He apologised, said it meant nothing, but I still feel really bad about it.
No more events in the near future, but my ego is hurt 
I wouldn't let #2 or #3 drop,
I wouldn't let #2 or #3 drop, either. Over a year ago, my husband was practically forced by his ex- to walk her down the aisle at a wedding, and I went ballistic over that, and a few other things that went down that day. You have every right to be angry. He, "said it meant nothing." He is not the one who gets to determine that. You do, as it was inappropriate behavior on his part aimed at you. Again, if any man was married to a woman, and it was non-step situation, no one, no one, would even remotely think that was normal or acceptable. But, since it is a step-situation, that is supposed to make it okay? You are his wife; not her. He was, in some ways, cheating on you with another woman in front of everyone.
He needs to listen to you and understand what he did was wrong. If anything, I would advise counseling for yourself, from a counselor who really gets step-situations, to sort some of this out. I did, and it did help. Him feeling he was at liberty to do this in front of you and brushing it off as no big deal might signify he is wa-a-y taking you for granted, at the least.
Think your marriage is over.
Think your marriage is over.
And no one can make you do something. You have a chose. You could of chose to not sit in between MIL and BM.
Stand up for yourself. Love yourself enough to not let anyone treat you badly.
The situation was confusing.
The situation was confusing. He showed me where to have a seat, so I thought he was coming too, but he left. So I was there, sorrounded by exMIL and BM.
Number two is really unforgivable.
The argument might continue... I am really sad but I think we can still work things out.
My first reaction would have
My first reaction would have been to get out of there and then my second reaction would have been to stay to save face and also to keep an eye on what else could/would happen.
You for sure have every right to be angry. I would be furious.
Why is the world did he do that? I would demand and explanation for what happened on his part.
I would have packed my bags
I would have packed my bags and left for a couple of days (minimum). Touching BM in a friendly/flirty/possessive way? Hell no. I'm not typically a psycho, but that would have made it show for a while. He knows he was wrong. He's just trying to downplay it.