Draw up a list of chores for her to do - that'll keep her from getting bored (or at least from expressing it). Or give her a book and tell her you want a resume of it at the end of the week.

Look at how your DuH treats her and you'll probably see why she feels the need to be entertained. Does he treat her like a princess? Nothing is too good for her? If so, then why would she lift a finger to do anything if Daddy is always there to make her life special? 

The constant need to be entertained is solely there because one or both parents pander to it.  Never encountered it in either of my bios, but then exH and I lived on a farm and there was always work needing doing.  I see it in my 5 yr old only child granddaughter, sadly.  My daughter seems to feel she must have constant, and I mean constant, input from a parent. 

I remember when SD's oldest daughter (estranged, so I never really refer to her on this site) once said that she only wanted to come over if DH had money to spend on her and was going to do fun things.

I stepped in and told her and the younger SD (now 29, who is the one I am always referring to on here and has a different BM) that he was their dad, not their entertainment center and the point of coming over was to spend time with him, doing whatever he/we happened to be doing, even if that was nothing. I nipped that shit right in the bud.

Ugghhh. My 3 year old can entertain herself. My stepson who is 12 will stare at us or the wall if there isn't a screen to look at. I think it's how kids are raised. During COVID school, I gave my stepson a list of things to do if he didn't know what to do. It consisted of things like: read, write a story or song, build something, complete a chore, reorganize your room, make up a game for you little sister, play outside, etc. Maybe your list can be better than mine lol 

Early after my divorce i felt like when the kids were at their dad's, i should do the boring things, and when they were with me, keep it fun. I told my cousin about it and he said something like "but what if they never learn patience or how to deal with routine things?" It was eye-opening, and he was right even though he had no previous experience with kids. They won't develop any creativity, either, if they just consume entertainment all day long 

Family time? We have a sit down dinner every night, but that's about it. Once in a blue moon we will all watch a movie together. We have done family vacation trips in the past - and honestly, DH and I both don't enjoy them with SD10. Sad but true. 

When SD was younger we would do some crafts together, but that's about it. 

As SD gets older, she's isolating herself more... the typical "staying in your room and not coming out" phase. 

DH is very handy and we both like working in the yard, house projects etc. SD doesn't like to help when we invite her. If she does help, it lasts 10 seconds with some random excuse, "oh my hands are hurtingggg, I'm going inside." Okay, fine. We're not going to beg you to hang out. 

SD will go out to eat with DH sometimes... but that's the extent of their one-on-one time. I know they love and care about each other, but their relationship just really isn't that close like it used to be. And like I mentioned the vacation thing... DH honestly doesn't enjoy a lot of alone time with her (complaining, being moody, dramatizing everything, etc.) He has voiced that it gets on his nerves too, so I don't blame him. 

SD10 doesn't voice "being bored" that often at all because then we just ask her to clean her room and go out on her bike. Both of which get in the way of her vegetating in her room apparently. 

**Long story short, give SD some alternate activities that she DOESN'T like and eventually she will quit complaining. Sounds like she's entitled and can't wrap her head around the world not stopping for you to entertain her. 

SD13 after a whole day at a ranch riding the horse Daaad bought her, with all the rest of us there all day "admiring" her in the summer heat, " Ok, what are we going to do TONIGHT?  Go to a movie?"

But Karma hit her because her own daughter was even worse.  She complained that after a whole day walking through the mall shopping for SGD, when they got home, SGD had the nerve to say, " What are we going to do now?  Bake cookies?"

Lol.

DH and I have talked about this and it has been said to SD multiple times - we are not here to entertain her. We are going to continue with our lives and she can join us when she is with us. 

When she was younger, she used to get upset when she found out about something (she thought would be fun) and did it without her. As she got older she would ask about our plans when she'd come of the weekend. If it didn't sound exciting to her, she'd make up some excuse and stay at BM's. That still happens to an extend to this day (she's 14 now). 

Her last stint here (of about a week), she blew up about DH not spending enough time with her. They had just spend about an hour doing stuff together. It was real quality time stuff too, but when DH tried to help her realize that she just brought up stupid stuff from the past. 

My SKid was a mutant.  He was great at self entertaining pretty much his whole childhood. Particularly when he was a toddler.

He would disappear for hours with occasional role call to his mom and I.  "Mommy! Daddy!".  We would each answer "Here!" and we would not hear him for another hour or two.  

Truly a great kid.

Other than 7wks per year of long distance SpermLand visitation we had SS 24/7.  The three of us pretty much did everything together.  His mom and I would make it a point to have just us time fairly regularly but other than that we were the 3 Musketeers.

We learned to enjoy the periods he was on SpermLand visitation (5wks summer, 1wk winter,1wk spring).  This gave us extended dedicated just us time so when he got home settling back in to our usual routine was pretty easy... other than the 2wks or so of post visitation behavioral detox and the week or so of pre visitation behavioral degradation.

I feel you! same age, same behavior. Although she's cool and doens't bother me, I'm not used to giving a child too much attention since my son is older and he's  not too needy of attention. But yea its like they expect entertainment (and spending!) all the time. We've been better because we're renovating the house and  we watch our finances closely so we just tell them to play outside or color etc. I also tell them that back in the day our parents didn't entertain us! We had to entertain ourselves. I schedule a movie night and now they (expecially her) need to go upstairs when its over then hubby and I get to be alone. I try to encourage my husband and tell him that I NEED alone time and my space or else I can get pretty moody. I'm not the type to be with the kids all day or work all day and go straight to bed, I need chill time and to unwind, especially with him. Luckly, he's learning and being supportive.

I will answer it this way.

When I was growing UP---out parents didnt run around entertaining us. Are you kidding me? IF we were going to have family time it was a dinner OR going out for icecream OR down at the shore most of the summers. Or on Sunday nights Watching Disney for 1 hr. My dad and mom controlled our TV's.

Parents were parents and the kids, well, we had toys, went outside, went swimming, rode bikes..played tag Kids stuff..

Some of you parents and step parents are running yourself in the dirt trying to entertain skids. I bet ya,,,BM told dh "YOU dont do anything with your childddddd". 

Sad acutally.

My SD's were like that, especially YSD and especially when OSD stopped coming over and it was just YSD.

She would arrive and literally ask 'what's the plan' for the weekend. She expected dinners out, day trips, constantly to be entertained. Her favorite meals cooked, to watch her favorite shows, and that all conversation be either about her or with her. And who could blame her. That's how DH made it. DH catered to all of that.

Until that is I started going out and doing my own things with friends and family on SD's weekends. SD couldn't stand that because she ended up "bored" while DH snoozed on the couch and didn't have too much to say to her then...no one around for them to put on the big super close daddy daughter act for haha

Visitation with DH always meant 'vacation' to them

...it changed for OSD when she moved in with us full time for a coiuple of years and still expected vacation standard, only to discover it wasn't quite like that on a full time basis  

I don't think there is anything wrong with planning some fun things and making sure skids feel super loved and imporantant on thier limited time with their DH, but expecting to be the constant centre of attention and have everything revolve around them and treated as if this is all about pampering and catering for most important them is probably also why both my SD's grew up to be entitled adults who act as if nothing DH & I do, no matter how much time, effort, money or big-hearthearted they may be, is ever good enough

There needs to be common sense, good parenting, and boundaries!