I don't understand the whole we have sex there line of thinking. Using that logic, exDF's kid would not have been allowed in our bed, on the sofa, in either shower..... }:)
I would never allow SKs to sleep in bed with me (that opens the door for a crazy BM to claim sexual abuse). However, I wouldn't mind them sleeping in the bed if I weren't there.
I think it depends on how you were brought up. I don't see a huge issue with the very young kids (bad dreams, etc. kind of situation) but, after a certain age, nope, gotta cut that cord.
Both of my parents worked hard at fostering independence in both my brother and myself. This included no co-sleeping. All 4 of my parents raised us using the same rule book. There was no playing any of them against the other and we didn't have the problems I see so often on this site. Every so often when I'm visiting my SM, I pull this site up so she can have a good laugh. Even my mother has taken a peek a time or two. Both are shocked at how times have changed.
She will be 7 this year. She slept in his bed every night until I moved in a year and a half ago... She occasionally will make comments that "my spot in the bed used to be her spot". So when I go out f town, and he lets her sleep there... I feel like she's going to associate me with why she can't sleep in daddy's bed.
She's already associating you with that based on the comment she made. Tell your DH he is setting his daughter up to be a mini-wife. He needs to think about what marital beds are for and draw a very hard line with his daughter about why it's inappropriate for her to be there.
We are almost never in a situation where DH is home overnight and I'm elsewhere for the night. IF one of the skids is sleeping in my spot, they all know better than to let me know. I do NOT want skid germs in my bed. Irrational? Maybe, but it's the way I'm wired.
Nope. I had to tell YSD that
Nope. I had to tell YSD that she couldn't at one point. That's my space. I have a great relationship with YSD, but that didn't include sharing my bed.
It wouldn't bother me at all.
It wouldn't bother me at all.
I don't understand the whole we have sex there line of thinking. Using that logic, exDF's kid would not have been allowed in our bed, on the sofa, in either shower..... }:)
I would never allow SKs to sleep in bed with me (that opens the door for a crazy BM to claim sexual abuse). However, I wouldn't mind them sleeping in the bed if I weren't there.
I think it depends on how you
I think it depends on how you were brought up. I don't see a huge issue with the very young kids (bad dreams, etc. kind of situation) but, after a certain age, nope, gotta cut that cord.
Both of my parents worked hard at fostering independence in both my brother and myself. This included no co-sleeping. All 4 of my parents raised us using the same rule book. There was no playing any of them against the other and we didn't have the problems I see so often on this site. Every so often when I'm visiting my SM, I pull this site up so she can have a good laugh. Even my mother has taken a peek a time or two. Both are shocked at how times have changed.
She will be 7 this year. She
She will be 7 this year. She slept in his bed every night until I moved in a year and a half ago... She occasionally will make comments that "my spot in the bed used to be her spot". So when I go out f town, and he lets her sleep there... I feel like she's going to associate me with why she can't sleep in daddy's bed.
She's already associating you
She's already associating you with that based on the comment she made. Tell your DH he is setting his daughter up to be a mini-wife. He needs to think about what marital beds are for and draw a very hard line with his daughter about why it's inappropriate for her to be there.
I wish it were NEVER in my
I wish it were NEVER in my house. My 6 yr old sleeps with my ex husband every night he's there (not my house). I hate it.
We are almost never in a
We are almost never in a situation where DH is home overnight and I'm elsewhere for the night. IF one of the skids is sleeping in my spot, they all know better than to let me know. I do NOT want skid germs in my bed. Irrational? Maybe, but it's the way I'm wired.
No. Children should be
No. Children should be sleeping in their own beds whether the step parent is home or not.