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BM and timekeeping

kate_x10's picture

Might be petty but I am sick of SD8's BM being constantly late to pick her up or conveniently not in if we drop her off. I just don't understand it. I'm someone who likes to be on time, if not early, and I do make the occasional mistakes but ALWAYS being late to pick up SD? I'm not exaggerating when I say she has been late every time unless there is somewhere she wants to be. Today she was almost two hours late! Luckily DH and I didn't have plans but that isn't the point - sometimes we do and whenever she is late BM always uses the excuse "well she's your child too". Hm. Funny how that isn't the case when DH has been late in the past.. BM always phones/texts abuse on the rare occasion he isn't on time.

Anyone else have this problem? Lol.

kate_x10's picture

I don't know what's worse! Haha. We've just kind of given up on fixing this problem as originally us dropping SD off was to combat BM being late all the time. But now she's never in at the agreed time! We sometimes leave her with her stepfather but SD and him don't get along and she doesn't like being at home with him and not her mum.

Orange County Ca's picture

IF you have a written order of visitation her failure to do her part can be considered a civil and even criminal violation of a courts order. Have your husbands attorney write her a letter stating that further variations of more than 15 minutes will result in a request for a hearing in family court.

Usually a letter from an attorney is all it takes to end the silliness. If you don't have a written order then getting one expressly stating that attention to the clock is required of all parties will set you off in the right direction.