So in a brief recap; I have a DH who's ex is still in love with him, they have 2 kids together, she has always tried to split us up but now that one of said kids is married the drama has basically become a life long game for her and now the kids are playing it even harder including new sdil and her mother. Yeah me, NOT..

So now we find out that the wedding was planned to make me feel like a outcast ( she designed to have DH and ex close so there could be pictures with both in the same shot), and that there was several hands in the mix. The pastor (which I have told you all about) the ex (of course) and the MOTB...... As some may recall I was supposed to suck it up and forgive SS and SDIL, hard pill to swallow, and I can't! They came up and gave us their version, well the SDIL gave us her version, which again sounded like a pile of crap.. But my DH told them straight away that I am not to be treated like this EVER again. The SS had absolutely nothing to say. No apology, nothing. Sat there smug as if he knew something I did not know. Anyway, I am over the wedding crap and do not want to keep reliving it.

So on to the next phase where the other SS 19 moved in with us and his drama started 15 minutes after he walked in the door.DH had sat him down and told him we were not going to have any EX drama and that he needed to act like a grown up. Well, he brought 2 hefty bags of laundry (dirty) when he came. I did said laundry because 1) I did not want him to intentionally break my machines. Just to give you a idea that was the first week in August and not one item has been washed since.. The room is a dump, food and drink bottles and bags everywhere e cig stuff everywhere, lego's EVERYWHERE...... He got a job the first week he got here, takes a shower everyday (SHOCKING) to go to work, but the last two weeks he has gone to work 4 days out of the time he is supposed to go which is only 4 -10 hour a day each week.. This is frustrating to me, because that means he is up all night with tv going, in and out the house without locking the door, drinking coffee and leaving coffee grounds in my sink, does not pick up his things and basically just acts as though I am speaking to myself when I tell him that he needs to be responsible.. Then I find out that his SDad has been the one with insurance on him since he was little (we covered him on Military but she refused to use it) and so the surgery that the Ex had to call my DH about every week (for 3 months) during the time I was stuck in another state while my husband was here where we moved to was a lie.... She never got the surgery done, nor scheduled it but was calling to get hubby to pay for it because it wasn't covered (but was).... Just another lie from her to talk to DH.. Oh and the whole fight thing in May that I mentioned... Another lie.. If you have a fight with someone and they physically hurt you, I am quite sure you are not going to get on the phone with that person and say (yes ma'am, no ma'am, I love you) in a baby voice to said person. Or is this just a made up world in my head where you act like you are in love with your parent..... While telling others that you hate their guts and wish them dead... Which is the story I get told... I could go all day on things that make me ill going on that I can not seem to get fixed in my home right now.

On another note, all of a sudden the other married SS has now decided that he wants time with his Dad and has made arrangements for the two of them to do things alone, and does not want anyone else present. Is this another set up for a meet up with the EX?? Who knows.. It sucks having a marriage where you have to keep secrets to see your kids that would destroy your marriage... I know this is how my husband feels.. But it sucks that they would put him in these positions to have to lie. Either way... I am about sick of all of this.. Just need to vent and remember that I have to work harder to get myself in a better position than feeling like this every single day... Thanks for listening and the advice girls!!!