My DH and I have been together for 12 years, married for 8 years. SD was 11 when we met and had a great relationship with her. She lived with her mom and saw her every other weekend. Everything was great until I had a DD with my DH. About a year after my DD was born we got into a big fight because she never wanted to be around us or my DD. I know that it is hard for her to see her dad with another DD besides her but,she was taking it out on me and being all great to him. So, I didn't pay any attention to her and try not to say anything to DH about it because it creates problems with us. When I married DH SD and I were the best of friends. Now she is 23 living on her own and comes back to visit DH's mom and dad. She doesn't make any effort to see me or my DD which is now 5 and LOVES her big sister. I have never said anything negative about SD to my DD because I want them to be close but, it's like SD doesn't want anything to do with my DD. When she plays with DD 5 minutes later she's like annoyed that DD is around. My DH just says he wants everyone to just get along but, what can I do to do that? I've tried being nice and contacting her to see how she is alot and no reponse. The only time she contacts me if she wants something and she writes DH long cards of how much she loves him and calls him. Which is good because I want them to have a good relationship too. I just want a good relationship with her and want to get along for my DD's sake but, looks like that is immpossible. It's like she is doing alot of little things to make me mad but, I try not to show that I'm mad to her because I know she is trying to do it on purpose like not writing me back text messages. Does anyone know what should I do? What can I do to make it all better because it is killing DH and my relationship and I wish we could all get along but, it does take two to do that.