Update to previous - SD (27) may actually be on her way out . .yaaaaaaaaay!
Well, maybe SD (27) is going to move out afterall. Today she told DH about some apartments she's scheduled to look at and he gave her some recommendation about different neighborhoods. Yippeeee!
Not sure if I mentioned it before, but I think this move is being prompted by a situation that happened the other night. DH and I were chilling on the living room couch, watching a movie. SD walked in, turned up the lights and proceeded to tell us she'd be back. 10 minutes later, we retreated to the bedroom, closed the door and didn't see her for the rest of the night. We heard her come back after an hour or so.
I'm assuming this incident must have really hurt her feelings because she's never mentioned anything to me about moving out before her wedding. Had I known it would have been this easy I would have been more blantant about dropping hints a long time ago. We'll see what happens.
I'll keep you gals posted. 
Woop woop, keeping my fingers
Woop woop, keeping my fingers crossed for you !! Maybe it's because you BOTH retreated into the bedroom ??? Perhaps her mind run riot with what was going on in there, and that there are still SOME things SD can't do for DH !!!!
If I was in that situation with SD I would also be thinking what is SHE up to NOW..... Usually her hidden agendas have hidden agendas of their own !!! Is your DH putting up the deposit/ rent on this potential place ??? Yep, I would be THAT suspicious !!!!!
Thanks everyone. I'm
Thanks everyone. I'm excited, but really won't accept it until I see her start packing her stuff. This day has been 3 years coming. I just don't think she has the balls to do it because she's weak .... as a result of being enabled. But we'll see what happens. She may be bluffing as a way to get DH to show her more attention. I think that's just how fu!@ed up her head is.
Yes retreating to the bedroom sent a message (which was not only my intention, but my idea). She's quite sensitive and her feelings are easily hurt, but she doesn't give a Sh! about hurting anyone else's feelings. If she were mine should would have been gone. She'll turn 28 in few months and hopefully she's getting the message loud and clear, "we need and desire our privacy, so it's time for you to go."
She has a job . . master's
She has a job . . master's degree . . new car ...no kids. She can find an apartment with a few recommendations from dad. She's likely looking on the internet. The gravy train is coming to an end.
She's too nasty/lazy to live with anyone else, that's one of the biggest issues I've had w/her. Her room looks like a tornado hit it. She NEEDS to live alone!
Hope she leaves soon,
Hope she leaves soon, interestingly I listen to audio books at work, passes the time, and an interesting thing came up in "the millionaire next door" the book I'm ready, It actually says giving adult kids money or not having them grow up responsibly actually hurts them in the long run. It wasn't step related but it still deals with all adult kids. it said you actually cripple their independence and self worth. I'm thinking they are on to something. Lets hope you guys get some freedom soon and let this adult woman spread her wings and learn to fly
Excellent comment
Excellent comment buttercookie, thanks for sharing that. I can see where DH has crippled SD because he doesn't hold her accountable. If she does something wrong, instead of him correcting her he'll fix or correct the problem. I reamed him good and told him his job as a parent is to not be a servant to clean up her messes, but to teach so she'll know going forward.
I'm hoping she will go through with it because after being here 3 years, we still aren't close and I think she's looking for that one big happy family dynamic that only happens when children are small . . not adults. Not only that, since we never bonded, our household is lacking unity and harmony so life has been challenging these last few years. I feel she wanted to break up our marriage and wanted me out. She has had the most difficult time adjusting even though I moved in w/them. I think things will improve once she moves out and takes her negative karma with her.
She's lived in a college
She's lived in a college apartment before and has a bunch of stuff in the basement. In my heart of hearts, I don't think she's going any where anytime soon . . .but I'm hoping I'm wrong. I've been wondering why she doesn't feel a need for privacy like we do. It's just not normal.
She's so manipulative that she may have just told DH that so he could tell me . . . . just to see me get excited. Then in a month or so tell him "I changed my mind because the rents are too high . . blah blah blah" She's full of S!@! like that and likes to play head games. I don't want to give her that satisfaction. Of course DH would be happy as a hog in slop if she stayed longer.