UK Newbie
Hi everyone,
As a UK mum i am so glad to have found this board, im new to this so i apologise if its all been asked before but i'd really appreciate knowing how other deal with adult step daughters who are attention seeking witches lol..
Briefly ive been with my partner over 3 years, we arent in a position to live together yet though do plan to once my sons left school. I have 2 kids DS 15, DD 20 who are both fine with our r/ship and like my partner, his daughter is 25, married, with a kiddy BUT OMG does she resent me!!!. She even cut me out of wedding photos at a family function. My biggest problem is that her dad, although he sees shes rude, petty etc doesnt want to get caught in the middle, and because he feels "guilty" hes trying to please us both and giving her even more fuel and attention. They are close, she lived with him for a couple of years at 18, (she is close to her BM too who is involved in her life) and she alternates between acting like his wife when im not there and a 6 year old when i am. I know some of it his fault, and she will alwyas be in our lives, but how can i stop it turning me bitter and stressy whenever shes around or mentioned?.
Theres way more i could mention but dont want to bore you all on my first post.
Look forward to hearing others coping methods
ER xx
One thing you need to do is
One thing you need to do is get your partner to support you and expect his daughter to resepct you. This is often easier said than done as DH's often feel so much guilt for their divorce they do not to set limits on skids for fear of rejection themselves. By the way, he is not in the middle. He helped to create the 'wife' and '6 year old'. A good father insists on good behavior from his children so they can move on to an emotionally healthy adulthood. Do not marry your partner until he can assure you that he will support you as his wife.