That and more;

I don't need an armchair analyst trolling my posts and undermining them...you don't know what's going on. I don't come here for 'attention'...I come here to vent because there's not much else I can do at this point.

I can say mostly for certain this will not be going on until he's 30! This is a do or die year because his mother has been 'hinting',not telling him that when the money runs out he's got until then to be off and running. Her style has always been procrastinate until the absolute last minute then freak out...instead of preparing ahead^ So the only thing that can happen when I stand and refuse to contribute is they'll end up finally turning on each other. I've seen signs of it along the way but it's hadn't gotten to the end of the line yet like it's going to.

She may try like before when he throws a fit to run interference,to shelter him like she always does,and try and put the blame on me or the world or whoever else she usually tries to. She actually tried that once before when junior threw a fit and walked out...she freaked out and of course blamed it on me for hurting his big 18yr old feelings and did another faux throw me out of the house. Thing is that can only be stretched so far before that breaks too and I'll gladly be out for good. She's trying to avoid that because deep down she really knows he's an unstable freak and could leave any day too,then she'll have neither of us. But she only keeps him around to lighten things up,he serves no practical purpose. She still needs me to do all the chores,bring in money etc.

So you see,when I do go it will be like pulling the rug out from a skyscraper and things will collapse big time. I've got to choose my time wisely before knowing I wrecked someone's life to the point of who knows where she'll end up.