So, three years ago I was asked to have a party for my SS28 by his gf. I had had major surgery three weeks before party was to happen, so said I would take care of the meat for BBQ, and she should just have everyone potluck the rest. She agreed and the party was planned for 2pm. That day, remember I'm still on major medication, people start showing up, with nothing. When asked they told me she hadnt asked them to bring anything! Needless to say I was pissed and scrambling as more and more people showed up! Of course, she didn't. Now, I have to admit I had a few drinks while on the meds, so I was not holding my younger as usual, but she didn't bother to show up until after 5. When she did, she started saying she was mugged, then it was she was pushed, turns out she was bumped into, so she had to go lay down and " rest" at home for a few hours. She brings a cake and a can of beans. I told her she was a lazy ass bitch, and my SS could do better. About an hour later, I went to bed. They did not leave until after 11 and I heard later that when she realized no one had cooked her beans, she took them home. Three weeks later she calls my H and starts ranting about how evil I am and she is never coming over again blah blah blah. This is a girl that would inform me her parents were coming to town, could I make them dinner etc, and I did! That was three years ago. Fast forward Christmas. She doesn't show and SS sneaks a token gift to H. Fast forward last Christmas, neither show but SS makes a point to leave a gift for everyone but me. Fast forward three months ago, they announce by text they are engaged, no call to my H, but, I don't get the text. Fast forward to last night and H meets them for dinner where she starts going on about the costs of the wedding and how much are we contributing and isn't there something in our trust about that. My fabulous H says we aren't dead yet and as for the $ he will have to talk to me. By the way, all the $ is mine. I'm trying to decide if I should ignore them, or give them a can o beans! }:)