I'm new here and SO glad I found this group. I have been a stepmother since my 20SS was 15. He was babied by my husband's parents and baby my husband...but my husband is actually getting better. SS20 used to be a well-mannered kid. His mom was virtually absent until my husband and I got engaged...then she became "Mother of the Year". SS20 is in college, but is home on break for summer. He spends 2 weeks with us and then 2 weeks with his mom...back and forth. He is annoying the h*'ll out of me. My husband works 2nd shift, so SS20 spends his two weeks with me...except when he spends Saturday afternoon with his dad. When I tried to explain to my husband that his kid doesn't need to be here when he's working and not even here for "his time" with his kid..why does he have to be with me?! My husband got angry because I don't want SS20 here. He had become a spoiled, arrogant, entitled know-it-all. I'm SO glad this is his last week with us. I really felt alone until I came here to this group. I don't even have kids...I shouldn't need to entertain this brat during the weeks that he is here. There is so much more to this, but you all get the point. Why is this 20yo college kid going back and forth from mommy to daddy? I certainly don't want to spend time with him. Even being in the same room with him annoys me. He disrupts my household weekend he's here, he's sloppy and his room smells like a boy's locker room and I cringe everything he walks obviously the door from work and says "Hello!" in a freakin' baby voice. What 20yo talks like a little kid? He eats me out of food in the house and now I refuse to go grocery shopping when he's going to be here. I actually try to make him uncomfortable when he's here so he won't want to be here, but that doesn't work. Ugh!!! Does anyone else have these issues?