Pleae help, I'm I being oversensitive?
My mum was single for the longest time after breaking up with my dad. He's chronically abusive and she couldn't put up with him, let alone raise a child with him. That's what she told me, I don't really know my father. I see him maybe once a year.
I'm female, in my early twenties now and my mum's been dating this guy for almost 5 years now. So they decided to move in together and well now we're all living together. I'm having abit of trouble adjusting to their relationship. I'll sometimes bump into my mum naked in the corridor. To be honest, I'm used to her nudity. I'm just uncomfortable with his looming presence after I bump into her like that. I keep thinking is it that hard to put on a robe? I know I should tell her but I know her well enough to know that she won't take it well because technically I should be living on my own. But my mum always said I could live with her till I was on my feet. There are a bunch of other instances that have me feeling like I'm being chased away silently and I just don't know what to do.
Please help me, I'm crying myself to sleep almost every night coz I feel alieanated in what should be my home. I just don't know what to do. I don't have a relationship with my father so I wouldn't even know how to begin having a conversation with him about this situation.
I want her to be happy and I can imagine after 15 years of singularity, this must make her happy. However, I'm miserable, uncomfortable and feeling misplaced. It's expected that I'll attend grad school in the coming fall so I know I'll leave. I just don't know how I can cope till then.
Please help!!
Oh believe it. This is just
Oh believe it. This is just one of the many instances of the entitled generation wanting to indefinitely live with a parent who is footing the bills.
You're in your early twenties
You're in your early twenties and crying because MOOOOOMMMMYYYYY has a boyfriend and it makes you feel uncomfortable?
Grow up honey and get your own place.
LOL aswang!!! "I got "PLEASE
LOL aswang!!! "I got "PLEASE get the fuck out before we invite our nudist swinger neighbors"
Tough love but I needed to
Tough love but I needed to hear it, thanks.
You're right, I did need a
You're right, I did need a different perspective. I hadn't realised how selfish I was being. I guess I'm just having a hard time letting go but change is good so I'm definitely going to embrace it.
I will move out and move on with my life. It's time. Thank you for that.
That would be uncomfortable.
That would be uncomfortable. I think if I were you I would move out. Find a way to make it work for yourself. You do not need to be exposed to this. Great for her but she should understand that you need not be exposed to this. I could not imagine expecting my daughter to accept this behavior from me.
All I could think of was this
All I could think of was this commercial. Mommy might be trying to tell you something.
http://adpressive.com/funny-farmer-the-pig-ikea-commercial-norway/
What it says at the end is "Time to move out?"
How to cope??? Leave now.
How to cope??? Leave now. Launch. Find someone looking for a room mate and move out.
I understand your discomfort but .... it really should no longer be your residence though if your mom is anything like my parents their home will always be home base for their children, DILs, and G-kid's too.
I actually think that some of
I actually think that some of these comments are harsh. I think that one must remember that kaye has been living with her mum and has an established environment and suddenly this has completely changed. this would throw most of us off kilter. Now im not saying that she has the right to complain but just telling her to bugger off is not helpful. this girl is still young and her reality has changed and of course she feels uncomfortable it has just been her and her mum and now shes forced to realise her mum is a sexual being with a partner. That being said, mum has every right to do what she wants in her own home as would kaye if she moved but i can understand the feelings she is having, especially as its been her and mum up until now. I thnink move out and rebuild the relationship accomodating the new partner at a level youre comfortable at without it being in your face.
I agree w Nelliepud that many
I agree w Nelliepud that many if the previous comments are harsh. On the other hand, it IS time to accept that things have changed...part of growing, which is a lifelong challenge, is to figure out how best to handle just that. It may be too hard to be happy for your mother while it causes pain for you, but remember, it will not always be like this. I'm a step mom myself, and if your mom has been a good one, it's probably a challenging time for her as well.. If you can avoid being angry at each other it would go a long way to a mature and loving mother daughter relationship.