Paranoid?
So my tire kept going flat, I take it in and have to have it replaced because apparently there was a nail jammed into the tire right below the rim. The technician told me that that was an unusual spot to have a nail. I immediately thought that ss32 did this, he has recently visited a few times. I told DH about the nail and how odd it was. I said it's like someone purposefully did this. He immediately started gaslighting me and telling me how common it was.
I also have had to replace two windshields because of odd cracks that originated near the bottom of the windshield. Both looked like they'd been hit with something small and wedge like, then the crack grew to the point it had to be replaced. DH immediately said it was due to the weather, ignoring the wedge marks. Funny that none of this has happened to his truck. I'm thinking it's time to invest in a security camera.
Anytime anything is missing or broken I mentally blame ss32. Maybe he's innocent and I'm just delusional but there's enough bad water under the bridge with him that I all of these things are a possiblity.
Absolutely put up the
Absolutely put up the security camera. And don't tell your DH. When you catch SS-32 on tape prosecute him and hand DH his own ass at the same time with the facts about his toxic spawn.
Facts are incontestable. Particularly when they are recorded and replayed for posterity in front of a Judge.
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Fantastic advice! THanks
Fantastic advice! THanks Rags.
Put up cameras and don't tell
Put up cameras and don't tell DH!
Yes I think I'll have to.
Yes I think I'll have to. What a life having to go behind DH's back to protect my property from his son.
Don't trust him at all and
Don't trust him at all and incidents seem to coincide w/when he shows up. It feels terrible that I can't share my suspicions w/DH but I would only be painted as crazy and hateful to his son.
Not that I disagree with not
Not that I disagree with not telling your husband about the cameras BUT be prepared for him to turn the "look what your son did" conversation into a conversation about how you went behind is back to install cameras without telling him just to probe his son is causing problems.
Totally agree, keep quiet
Totally agree, keep quiet about the CCTV, do not even tell your husband and when your gut feeling was right, file a police report with the evidence.
Gut feelings are never ever wrong, and bio parents always try and protect their children.
I have had a few times where
I have had a few times where I have been paranoid that someone is doing something they shouldn't. Most of those times it was just me putting various coincidences together and coming up with the wrong answer, it caused some issues for me and I know upset those that I accused greatly.
So I would say tread very carefully, be open to possibilities outside of your main theory. Getting chips on your windscreen is not that unusual and I would have thought more likely for a car than a truck (as they are lower down). If you didn't get the chip filled in then there is a risk that it will crack the whole windscreen (check with your insurance next time, they might fill it in for free or little cost to save them the money of replacing the whole windscreen). The nail in the tire does seem unusual. But perhaps it was a freak accident or perhaps it was some random kid "messing around" and not your ss.
If you want to get the cameras go ahead and get them, but try not to become obsessed with the idea that it is your ss as I have found that just leads to an unhealthy mentality as I am always trying to spot what that person is doing to me and leads to me putting blame on them for things which have nothing to do with them.
I got several flat tires in a
I got several flat tires in a very short span. SO never got one. I told BM's coworker how I was setting up cameras to catch her and I never got another one. Never set up the camera either. This all happened when we lived about a mile from BM's sister on gravel and BM would go by our house numerous times a day.
This is all you need to
This is all you need to do.
Don't blame SS, just tell DH you want to feel safe and are going to put up a camera.
You don't need to catch SS, you just need him to stop doing it.
Yes it's just all odd and I
Yes it's just all odd and I want it to stop. So far 2 windshields, one side window and 2 tires. DH has had nothing on his car. It could all be a weird coincidence or I could just be one freaked out b. I've been through enough that that is a possibility, but cameras just for peace of mind instead of trying to catch someone is a great idea.
Thank you all for advising and listening!