All,

My wife picked up the kid from his final SpermClan visitation on Friday evening. The SpermIdiot was there to drop the kid off. My wife referred to him as DH in her text notifying me that she had the kid. I cracked up since DH has a completely different meaning in STalk land than in our use of it when referring to the SpermIdiot. DH is DickHead which sounds very similar to his first name. This is the good part of the story.

Now to my screw up. My wife has been on a road trip from Houston to OR with her youngest brother and has had a blast. Apparently I have had a condescending tone of voice when talking to her during her trip. I was not aware that I was being condescending. She and her brother stopped at the Grand Canyon on there way to the Pac NW. Prior to their departure I suggested that they stop at the main entrance to the canyon because I would like to see the other rim on the return road trip the last week of Aug and first week of Sept. I used the wrong rim in the conversation. I was thinking that I wanted to visit the N rim but said the S rim. She was telling me where they were and apparently I made a comment that they could not be where she said they were if they were on the rim with GC village and the lodge. This upset her and she has brought it up every time we have talked since the incident.

I apologized during the original conversation once I got my mind around their location.

Tonight while we were talking she brought it up again and I got frustrated and told her that she had brought up my comments on that day at least half a dozen times and I did not want to hear it again. Bad idea Rags!

She got quiet for a bit so I kept going with our conversation by asking what she had done today with her family and what she was doing tomorrow. She recapped her day then told me she was spending the day with her sister tomorrow. I asked what they were planning on doing tomorrow and she snapped "my family is not like yours they don't plan out every minute of every day". (My parents really do plan most days out very fully) I pointed out that I had not said a thing about her family, asked where her comment had come from, and told her I did not appreciate her comment about my parents. Bad idea #2.

She snapped back that I have said plenty of things about her family (which I have). I responded by saying that I only spoke of her family when she was venting about them and in support of her and in agreement with her own opinions of them. Bad idea #3.

Then I asked about the kid, what he had said about his summer visitation with BioDad, etc..... She snapped that he had said little and said that if I wanted to know what he did to talk to him. I commented that I had called him several times over the summer visitation and texted him several times with no response. She snapped that she would give him her phone and I could talk to him.

At this point I lost it and responded that I did not want to talk to the kid, that I had attempted to communicate with him several times during his visitation and that if he had anything he wanted to talk to me about that he could call me because I was not calling him. I also expressed how hurt I was that he answers the phone every time someone from the polluted end of his gene pool calls but won't answer the phone when the guy who has supported him his entire life and pays for every opportunity he has every had calls.

She responded that he does not answer when she calls either.

So, here I am not able to sleep, she just texted asking if I was still awake, I called, we talked, it was pleasant but strained then she said her phone was about to die and had to go, I said let's talk until it dies, she said she has to go.

How bad did I screw up?