It's been a long time since I have posted to this board. I have lurked periodically, but thankfully haven't had the need to post. Today, I decided that I might want to pass some good thoughts onto others.

I know that so many here suffer with stress and heartbreak. Often made to feel like you are the bad guy. Well let me just tell you this part of my story. I remember the day I left H. As I got into my car and started to pull out of the driveway, I said to myself "the problems with this dysfunctional family was here before I came into the picture and the problems will still be there now that I am gone". I also told myself "my peaceful life was there before I entered into their crazed world and my calm life will return". Boy was I ever right!!

Threw the grapevine and FB, I have recently been made aware of many things. I am not jumping for joy happy cause others are suffering (although, I probably should be). I am more relieved to know that it wasn't me.

Here's the updated gossip:

1. Oldest SS24 moved in with DH shortly after I moved out, bringing his baby mama and her two kid in toe.
2. Youngest SS23 was living with us when I moved out, but he was kicked out by H in order for OSS to move in.
3. Youngest SS has now been arrested 5 times in his adult life, 2 of the arrest have happened just since I moved out.
3. Friend of H that moved in with us only after H and I had been married for 4 months and stayed with us for over a year was finally kicked out in order for OSS to move in.
4. OSS was later kicked out as well due to all his partying and lack of responsibility.
5. H moved both his parents in with him because his father was ill. Sadly his father passed away a week ago today.
6. BM met the "love" of her life at the beginning of this year. And about a month ago got engaged. I was happy to hear this, but honestly was pissed at the same time wishing she could have met him before the shit hit the fan between H and I. Seeing that she was the main root to the problems.
7. BM and fiance broke up yesterday! I don't know the exact reason why. I do know that her ex-fiance stated on FB that the problems were her and her "kids". Hmmm go figure the precious little golden children could possible get in the middle of their relationship!

My point of this post is to tell everyone out there that IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT! Life can go on and it can be happy! I am so glad I made the decision to leave! SMH thinking I could still be trapped in all that mess!