So..I have avoided talking to my husband because I didn't want to seem negative about the grandbaby. He is on his way home but we got to talk quite a bit while he was driving to the airport.
He said that he doesn't blame me for how I feel and he knows exactly how they are. He said he didn't go there for anyone else but the baby and he is not getting attached. (He may be in denial but I'm happy he realizes how they can be).
He said that even though he enjoyed holding the baby he was depressed because this (me) is his home and nothing is worth being away from me, especially if it's drama.
He said he felt on guard the whole time and couldn't even relax.
I was honest and told him how I felt and I'm so glad he understood why!
I also told him that if he died, I would never speak to his kids again. Want to know what he said??
He said "I don't blame you and I wouldn't want you to"

And this is funny..while he was there (about two hours before he left) he said he casually mention to my sd if she had contacted me. She lied and said she has been sending me pics.
Within an hour of him leaving, she sends me pics! I let my husband know that I didn't hear a word from her until he left. It just shows what a liar she is and how she's trying to cover her bases.

It is nice to know my husband understands why I feel the way I do and he admitted they treat him like crap. I hope one day he can finally stand up to them but until then, all I can do is stay disengaged and live my own life. I thank God she lives in another state.
He said he felt like he needed to go (I think he felt obligated to go) and he is ok with that.

Now....I'm just holding my breath waiting for the next bombshell to happen.