Just showing up
I've been working more lately and with the car needing work I need it, so I haven't been on in awhile. Things have been the same with skid 19, though last night he pulled a new stunt. He showed up out of the blue. He'd called dh's cell several times but didn't get ahold of anyone as we were out alot. So I'm trying to get a quick dinner together that night as we had one more errand to do and suddenly I hear my kids saying his name. He'd showed up with his gf, a dog (not sure if his dog or not) and 3 of his friends. I asked if he knocked and he said yes, but I didn't hear it so if he did he opened the door right after knocking and let himself and his friends in.
He stayed a few minutes, then took dh out to dinner and gave him $20. Considering his other behaviors (like taking part of our kids Social Security money by claiming mental and partying with it and then wondering why I don't respect him) I have to wonder if one of the reasons he did this was to make me look bad.
When he left I acknowledged to dh that what he did was nice, but I still felt why I did about the $$ (dh has mixed feelings about the $$) and if he didn't get ahold of anyone it probably wasn't a good idea just to show up. Dh goes "well he came all this way OF COURSE he's gonna come up to the house. (THEN DONT DRIVE AN HOUR AND A HALF IF YOU DON'T GET AHOLD OF ANYONE!!!!!)
What do you guys think? Am I overreacting or was he rude-and do you guys think skid did this to irritate me? Is it likely to happen more often??????
Just showing up is rude and
Just showing up is rude and would have royally pissed me off. And with company in tow??? :jawdrop:
Druggie SS19 used to do the same. The friends were a buffer, so that his Dad couldn't talk freely.
I agree with ThatGirl, rude,
I agree with ThatGirl, rude, and the friends thing, my biokids do that because they KNOW I will now yell or make a scene in front of other peoples children. Kids are creative when it comes to getting out of trouble.
We know there's no such thing
We know there's no such thing as a free lunch, let DH know that applies to dinner too! The boy is up to something and he's softening DH up...I wish more BD's would see things as they really are! Bio tinted eyeglasses do get all scratched up though and have to be taken off.
How should I explain that to
How should I explain that to him-are you saying that b/c you think he's up to something (which I wouldn't doubt in the least)? I mean if I tell dh straight out that he's up to something I'll get labeled as the bad guy and it'll take him all that much longer to see the truth. Are there any other sneaky signs I should watch for with him?
My BF kids were the same way
My BF kids were the same way and it would piss me off because we would make plans and then of course someone would call saying " dad I want to stay the night or the weekend", And their was times we put aside our plans because they decided to waltz right into our life like the world should stop because of their presence. Finally I told BF if kids want to come over then they need to get a hold of you no later then Thursday because it was like fricken radar with these kids, and we got tired of canceling our plans to do something because they decide they need to pop in for whatever their sneaky reason is, most the time it was cause they wanted something and would butter their father up. Once they got whatever they wanted they would say they was ready to go home.
Your SS19 first off shouldn't bring people to your ome that you don't know, and if his intentions were to see his father or spend time with his fathern then he needs to arrive solo, I would nip that real quick. If her does not get a hold of you guys then he needed to be patient and wait til he did, because like my SK if you had plans its going to piss you off.