I have a 15 year old bio-daughter, an 8 year old bio-son, a 17 year old step-daughter and a 21 year old step-son. My BD, BS and SS live with us. We had not had contact with my SS until about 6 months ago and then 4 months ago he moved in with us. Long story short, when he was 5 his mom filed to have my husband's rights terminated and he relented feeling like it would be better for him. Anyway, 4 months ago he moved in with us. He is in the National Guard and is set to deploy to Afganistan in June for a year. When he first moved in, he actually worked at his unit Mon.-Fri. Well, shortly after he moved in, for unknown reasons to DH and I, he was no longer working there full-time... just does his monthly drills now. Once he was no longer working, we explained to him that he was responsible for helping with chores around the house. I am a stay-home-mom and have always taken care of most of the household chores. My bio-kids are in school and have homework most nights, but they both have chores they are responsible for. My DH and I explained to SS that first and foremost he is completely responsible for cleaning the living room since that is where he sleeps. In addition to that he is suppose to help with cooking, cleaning the rest of the house (excluding BD & BS rooms and my room). However, 4 months later he is still not helping. He stays up all hours of the night on his X-Box or laptop and then sleeps until noon - 3pm every day. My BD & BS were recently grounded from their laptops for not cleaning their rooms. After talking to SS again (for the 4th or 5th time) about him helping around the house, he was still sitting around watching me clean house, cook dinner, and then clean the kitchen after. So, DH and I decided that we would have to get his attention somehow in order to get him to help. DH had a friend come over and put a block on our internet so SS couldn't get online. He came in late that night and once he woke up the next day and realized he couldn't access the internet through ours, went and bought an air-card (I think that's what it is called) so that he can get online. Once I came home from picking BS up from school, he started flaunting the fact that we couldn't block him. He then sat on the couch and watched me clean house by myself once again. Here's where I need some help. What are our (DH and I) options? We can't restrict him from his computer, cellphone, etc. like we do our other children because he owns them. If any of you can help, please let me know. Also, since I am new to this whole stepparent thing, any advice at all would be greatly appreciated. There are other issues going on here, but this is the one that is most important right now.