As if I needed confirmation
Well dh contacted youngest daughter to start the ball rolling so she and her sisters can collect their loot. There is some complicated stuff but it involves several sisters splitting the monies at the request of their grandparents with their siblings not named on the trust fund. Dh is involved to ensure that two sisters don't run off with the pot of gold, and not split with two younger. Suffice it to say that family knows that the honor system means nothing with these chicks. Frankly I would not give a damn as to who gets what.
So........dh calls youngest......voicemail only. Within two minutes he gets nasty call from his ex demanding to know what is going on and ???
I guess my point is clear. These chicks are thousands of miles away and yet it is obvious that mother wolf still is wiping her cubs backsides. They can not even graciously accept a gift. Un freaking believable!!!!
And I might add that younger
And I might add that younger daughter never called dh back. He was told to stay out of it and that the sisters do not want an overseer! No thanks....no nothing. So the pack gets lots of tax free cash that basically is dh's inheritance.....lets be real here. And that is what he gets....told to leave his daughter alone. But of course he still pays for her college.
So she sulks.....the victim of dh and the evil wife.....and gets rewarded for her troubles. ME? I get such stress that I need to post to an Internet board about how angry I am!!! Who's the crazy one here???
They have been rewarded their
They have been rewarded their whole lives, born with a silver spoon in their mouths. All I know is that I made the right call...sticking to my boundaries.....no contact with them.......their sadistic mother still calls the shots, and I have to say she is one cruel witch. I think she is capable of quite a lot of damage.
No no no....the grandparents
No no no....the grandparents are alive and well.. They had set money aside when the kids were babies.
Cheri.....here is what
Cheri.....here is what happened. Grandparents put money in a bank acct for each when the first 5 grandchildren born. However, they suffered money problems later and could not do it for the other 25 plus grand kids. So.....they and everyone else felt it unfair obviously for only the oldest five to get the money, which now as grown considerably. The other sibs have taken the acct and split it among their children. Which is fair. Grandparents want dh's 4 children to share in this money....but the acct in two oldest names. Grand kids never knew about this money until recently. And these are not any of my children.
Grandparents wanted dh to ensure the two oldest did not stiff the other two. You are right....why get involved? Why care?
Grandparents wanted all kids treated equally, but ran out of money. So this is their way of correcting that.
And yes.......I am comfortable being repulsed by people profiting from a family they have shunned, at best.
You are right. But it is
You are right. But it is pretty repulsive to have people give you this gift and not follow their wishes......which does not benefit them or dh. They simply are getting involved because they still care about all the kids and their best interests.
Still.
And they can not touch
And they can not touch it.....the kids are now adults and it is no longer a custodial acct.
It is gross. And the
It is gross. And the youngest is thousands of miles away from mommy and yet within 5 minutes of calling her, he got a call from her mommy.
And this is the adult child that wants in my dh's door.........hmmmmm.....why would I want such nasty entitled people in my life?
And yes....dh still wants to protect all his girls....unconditional love.....too bad they just can't see what good they threw away?
Well here's an update. Dh
Well here's an update. Dh never got a phone call back from any of his daughters. He mailed the oldest two their checks. He has not told any of them how much the amounts are. He is still protecting them.....does not want to start a war I suppose. The oldest one has tremendous debt, likely to the tune of 80k, and never got a degree to show for her troubles ( or rather our cash). Dh is not even sure she will use the money to pay off the debt. I may sound nutty, but she scares me. Her loans must be in repayment by now, and you often hear of people being killed for insurance money. All her uncles have been in jail, along with her cousins. Sociopathy is coursing through her veins. No joke. I am concerned......she is the one that really hates her father.
Dh still thinks that by engaging with them, he can change them......get them to have compassion and empathy. I think those days are long gone.
They never called him back,
They never called him back, so far.....but I think the chances are slim.
I asked him what he intended to do to get them to share. He said he would talk sternly to them. I said that these are daughters who actually took you to court.......they have no respect and incredibly ballsy and aggressive. They will do what they want! As I shared above, the oldest has huge debt load, so I do not see her tossing her sisters any money!
I do feel bad for
I do feel bad for him.....imagine having all of your children turn out this way. and he did try with them so much. his biggest mistake was being bamboozled and conned by a woman who wanted out and saw him and his family as that means. oh well i guess.