Married to my husband 5 years. He has 8 children all adult over the age of 40. 4 are biological and 4 are previous step children. The ex-wife is deceased. I have 3 children. Initially, I thought all was going well. I entered the family with hopes of having a big family. We were included in all family events. One stepson personally invited me and even called me stepmom. One day a discussion which turned into an argument developed with this son and I was cursed beyond belief. He immediately texted all siblings and begin to tell his version of the conversation. He indicated that I called the mom a "B", which is far from the truth. Mind you, I was told by all that this sibling was a liar, and wondered if he grew up in the same house they had. His wife was present,but got amnesia. Suddenly he became Abe Lincoln and could tell no lies. I began to receive hate text and face book nasty comments from siblings and grandchildren. I was told by a daughter-n-law I was not a family member. Interesting since my husband produced the son that made her a family member. I received text from as far as England. No one wanted to hear my version I was just found guilty. Thus begin the unraveling of the blended family. I was hurt, I always thought if you had an issue with someone it was between the two of you. This family embraces the mob mentality. They don't want facts just a reason to attack. Because of this incident, it became a problem with family functions. I as an adult have the ability to attend a function and not create a disturbance. My husband advised all the family members that I would be respected, just like they feel their wives should be respected. They said they understood, but their actions indicated something else. The last straw was when a sibling who my husband has raised since the age of 7 and we have supported financially, even put food on her and her grandchildren's table, had a milestone Birthday. The event was held at a son's house who had invited us to Thanksgiving dinner. The party was never mentioned, even though it was being held at his house. The birthday person lives in another state and we had told her we would be there for her birthday. I called to ask her what was happening for her birthday, and was told oh, I already celebrated. All her siblings came, those from Florida, Texas and other parts of the country. My husband was never told about the celebration. His son said he did not want my husband and the brother to have words.My husband felt if a choice was to be made it should have been him, who had the option to go or not. This is just the most recent example. My husband has decided to no longer be involved in the pettiness that goes on. My husband was hurt as he has been the only father the four stepchildren and his own have known. He married their mom at the age of 19yrs old. He says that he is at peace and I support his decision to end all contact with them. To some this may be petty, but I don't have enough time or space to include all the nastiness that has taken place over the 5 years.