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Submitted by Lady on Sun, 08/26/2012 - 10:43pm

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DH grandaughter has a birthday coming up. This is the grandchild I bonded with as a grandmother and loved her for 3 years before SS and his wife stopped that Sad . Last year they told my DH we will not accept any gifts if your wifey's name is on it . This year for her birthday and Christmas me and my Dh will be opening up an account for our grandaughter and put money in her account until she is old enough to get the money. It will be from us both. We will not say a word to SS and his wife and when they come to DH telling him how sorry he is for getting his grandchild a gift DH will say we did get her a gift and let it go at that. To me they dont think to much about their own child to say she cant have a gift. When grandchild is older and her parents tell her she was never thought about by her papaw at her birthdays and Christmas well they will be schocked because we never forgot her at all. ASSHOLE SK's.

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Submitted by LostinSpaceandTime on Sun, 08/26/2012 - 11:29pm

So ridiculous for you and your DH and the grandchild to have to have this stupidity in your lives. Good for you for making your own plan.
Don't ever give the GD's parents access or a say in how the child spends the money either.

YSD is already in August texting my DH and pretty much demanding he give her son and her cold hard cash or savings bonds or gift cards from now on. She doesn't want anything else.

Well this year for my GD2 I will be having a little footstool made from the same lumber that we made some things for our home. It was a cherry tree that was cut down when we built our house. I will be doing the finish on the wood and inscribing her name and ours. It will be something she can pass on to her children one day. I was going to have some made for all three GC. My GD and DH's grandson18 m and granddaughter2
But not now, since I am not part of their family anymore. He is on his own to deal with their greedy demands and ridiculousness.

Perhaps you can put aside that money and when your GD is 18 you can take her on a cool trip to celebrate her independence from her parents and leave their asses at home!

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Submitted by Orange County Ca on Mon, 08/27/2012 - 2:06am

Excellent idea but I wouldn't make any secret about it. When asked about a gift, and I assure you he will be asked, he can just say off hand that "WE put the money in a trust fund for the girl" and not elaborate.

This is a really pathetic attempt on the sons part to control his father and I'm overjoyed he's doing this as it sends a clear signal to the boy that he will not be pushed around that easily.

I don't know how far the son will take this sort of thing - the son may need to eventually disbar even his father from seeing the girl. I hope he holds the course.