evaluating couple counseling
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I have asked DH to see if this is available via his work insurance, but if not, we will be looking on the open market for it, and no doubt the disengagement from OSD will be one of his topics (not mine). What type of counseling do others recommend, and are there any searching questions that should be asked in order to ensure that the counseling does not end up being yet more pressure on a Sparent? Thanks folks
I talked to the counselor
I talked to the counselor ahead of time. Told her generally the problems we had, if she had dealt with a lot of that, what her philosophy was, etc.
Mostly just got a feel for her to see if I liked her and thought she was smart.
Does his work offer EAP? They
Does his work offer EAP? They usually offer a few free sessions.
Yes what I'm trying to avoid
Yes what I'm trying to avoid is some starry-eyed outfit that tries to promote blending. Don't want to be beaten with another stick that has the appearance of being sanctioned.
In addition to the excellent
In addition to the excellent suggestions here, fit is very important -- you need to find someone with whom you feel comfortable. Don't hesitate to move on if your first counselor doesn't feel safe to you.
What a moron. Kind of ironic
What a moron. Kind of ironic given the female-bashing you had received in life. Can't remember who coined this, think it was Adrienne Rich or was it Nawal El Saadawi about female circumcision, called the females who do this to support the patriarchal system "the token torturers".
I know, and what I so don't
I know, and what I so don't want (apart from paying good money for rubbish product of course) is to have someone gang up on me. My experience is nowhere as awful as Stepaside's in terms of RA but I do not want even more of it, even at the level I have it.