I am a recently married and I have a son from a previous relationship in his early teens and twp stepchildren one is 15 a boy and a 23 year old step daughter. When I met the father he told me the story of how his ex whom I have never met, was hooked on pills and he won custody of his children in the divorce the SS live with us. I have been married less than a year and have been with my husband for about 3 years. I knew that mixing a family would be a little tough and so far it has been a little tough. Me and my son moved into his house he previously shared with his es wife, his daughter had moved away so i had not met her until last year that she moved back to our town. She lives with her mother. The realtionship with my SS has been rocky no arguments and he would never dare insult me for the pure reason he knows I would not stand for it. I have a tough attitude and have raised my son in a strict environment (not to say he is perfect I know he has his character flaws as well)his son was realy in need of some stricter rules since whne i met him i really thought he had a some kind ok muscle sickness (although when he forgot we were around he would run around liek if nothing was wrong) he was being home schooled and would be on the compuetr unsupervised and on the xbox all day long. I warned my then fiance about the dangers and told him this was not a healthy life style for this young man. My house keeper whom I had hired to help me begin to help my fiance at the time since he worked full time and then came to fix his son dinner and the poor thing was too tired to clean his house properly so the house keeper would go about twice a week until she got things up to par. She told she was concerned about this boy he smelled bad was a round ball all he did was sleep and be on the computer and xbox and take an hour or so of phone class and eat. So at the time I knew we werer going to be more seripous and previous to me moving to my fiances house I advised him that I was concerened about the childs welfare and if he did not put him school I would contact child protective services. You haveto understand my husband is such a loving man and push over with his kids he loves them but he does not know how to discipline them at all he will clean up behind them, do the chors and anything so that his son was not bothered. Because he said he felt bad for his son. So long story short finally got the kid enrolled in public school and no more muscle sickness and he is the JROTC now and has lost a ton of wieght, still likes the computer and the video games though at least i know he is socializinga nd with kids his age in a proper environment while at school. Needless to say I am not his favorite person he rolls his eyes everytime i say anything and tells my son not to listen to me since his BM tells him he should not listen to me either, I like to have a clean house and alwys am after him to pick up his stuff and thinsg he eats. But he is not really my problem, my problem is the Step daughter who lives with the bio mom has informed my husband that she will have to move in with us becasue the BM is moving away.I do not knwo what to do I do not want to have her near my son she does not want to get a job or study, is a gothic rocker who colros her hair and drinks, takes pills, has open relationships with women and men and how do i know this - she posts it on the internet I ran across her posts after doing some research since my husband will not share anything about her. And I do nt have the heart to show my husband the internet page since I know it will break his heart but I cannot ahve the SD in my house around my son. What should I do any advice, oh I did have my home previously and I have it rented out but I love my husband but my obligation is to my son. Please any advice??