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Adult SD Protected by Mom

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Submitted by SN on Wed, 06/30/2021 - 9:02am

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Hi evryone

I am looking for advise with my situation, I am maried for the second time and love my wife however she has two daughters who are adults 21 & 23.I find that more often than not when I have discusions with my wife the older SD tends to challnge everything I say which I find very irretating and rude. She also is a very messy person never cleans up after herself and when I ask to have her clean up its always later and never gets doneI have tried to express my concerns to SD and mom and usually it starts an arguement with my wife and I, she protects her daighter constantly and makes up excuses due to her having ADHD. I am very tired and don't want to deal with this anyore last night we had a family arguement and I feel it is 3 against 1 always.

Any advise would be appreciated. Thank you 

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Submitted by Rags on Wed, 06/30/2021 - 1:54pm

What are your bride's prior failed family adult breeding experiments doing living in your home. They are adults.

Also, what are they doing involved in conversations between husband and wife?

 

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Submitted by Hesitant to try on Wed, 06/30/2021 - 6:29pm

feels making her daughers happy is more important than making her husband happy. If that is true, you don't have a good marriage. Either fix it, or leave. If that isn't true and she thinks your happiness is more important, then you should tell her what you want/need in your home and see if she does anything about it. 

Why are these 2 young adults living at home still? Are they students?