I have two children of my own 19 and 21 one of whom went through serious drug problems and has become a responsible young man now. My children s Father committed suicide 2 years ago completely out of the blue, unanswered questions have been hard for them but they are both successful and have great jobs and their own responsibilities. My Step Son lives at home and is going to be 19 in October, although he has never got into the serious drug issues my son did, he has caused a huge rift between myself and my husband. Starting last summer he stole $600 from us by taking an ATM card and withdrawing money. He then stole a British Gold Souverign Coin worth a lot of money that was my Grandfather's. He pawned this and the police were involved and prove he did. I also had my Diamond Eternity ring from my first marriage stolen and a solid gold watch that was my Grandmothers and a gold watch that was my Daughters given to her from her Dad's Mother when she died. It has never been proven where these went or who did it, but the detective said he had no doubt just as I did who stole them.

The eternity ring was to be turned into a pendant for my Daughter as a reminder of her Dad.

Things had settled back down again since this but small things he does that are so irresponsible get me so upset. This came to a head last night when he drove through the grass in the front yard TWICE when we have 4" of standing water there. Wrecked the grass and thinks there is nothing wrong with that. Ultimately it ended in my husband and I having a huge argument and my Step Son leaving.

Help, this is destroying my relationship and I believe it all stems from the thefts but how do I get past this.