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Submitted by christinen on Wed, 12/25/2013 - 7:59am

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So DH and BM switch xmas every other year - this year, BM has SD on xmas eve until supposed to be noon on xmas day, then DH is supposed to get her.

BM didn't answer her phone to set up the exactly meeting time last night and never returned DH's call until just now (9am).

Mind you, she lived 1.5 hour away from us & they are supposed to meet halfway to exchange skid.

So she says she doesn't think she will be able to meet DH halfway because her mom isn't talking to her and she doesn't think she will let her use the car (yes.. she is almost 30 and lives with her mom and drives her mom's car).

So basically if DH wants SD, he will have to drive 3 hours (1.5 hour each way) to get her. HELLO BM WE HAVE PLANS. We don't have time to drive 3 hours on freakin xmas day.

I don't even know if the story about her mom & the car is true, nor do I really care.. but I think she is just trying to mess up our plans.

What a piece of shit.

I am fuming right now.

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Submitted by christinen on Wed, 12/25/2013 - 8:46am

See that's part of the problem - the CO doesn't state the details. All it says is every other year they have skid xmas eve until noon on xmas day, then they switch. Doesn't say anything about where they meet, etc.

Granted, the CO has not been updated since SD was a year old and she is now almost 6. I keep telling DH he needs to have it modified (the CO custody arrangement is not even what they do now, they just never went back to court to legally change it).

Grrrrrrrrrrr!!

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Submitted by christinen on Thu, 12/26/2013 - 10:02am

I am mad at both of them - BM for being a jealous psycho who has made it her mission in life to ruin our plans whenever she gets the chance, and DH for enabling her and allowing it.

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Submitted by tjm on Wed, 01/01/2014 - 7:07pm

BM always gets SS for Christmas and we are supposed to get him on 26th. Last two years it wasn't until 27th. My husband has never had his son on Christmas Day. I keep telling him to step up to her and say something. Lets rotate it or something, but he refuses to say anything to her, because he doesn't want to upset her. He said if she gets upset she could take him back to court or play her games so that he doesn't see his son as much. I think he just wants to avoid the confrontation.